Sunday, May 15, 2005

Oh, And I'm Engaged

like you, nostalgic imaginary internet friends, sometimes i find myself thinking about my past relationships. sometimes that's because i think about recent relationships and what's gone wrong with them. sometimes that's because i wonder what my next relationship should be like.

and sometimes it's because my past relationship IMs me.

so i dated this Adorable guy um, (oh-my-holy-god) TEN years ago. for three months. it was completely bizarre and hysterical and happened over a very very cold new york winter and it started because i gave my number to a guy he worked with when i was schlepping coffee dressed in a minnie mouse costume.

(i couldn't make this up if i tried.)

and since then, we've been in touch on and off. usually through IM and usually to discuss important things like the weather, what relationship disasters we've created lately, and, well, jerry springer* (STEVE! STEVE! STEVE! STEVE!).

so anyway, recently we were IMing and reminiscing about those three months, wherein he was working for a Very Serious financial services company and funny things happened like he took his 19-year-old girlfriend** to the Formal Company Holiday Party and she drank 349 tom collinses and then led the conga line and almost got fired from her internship the next day. and also we laughed about his living (literally, he slept there) at one of the wealthiest country clubs in connecticut.

then at one point in this recent IM conversation, Mr. Adorable announced that he thought we should maybe just get married.

hmmm. interesting.

he explained that because:
  1. we've made it ten years and are still talking (and enjoying doing so), and that's more than lots of people can say...

  2. we don't seem to be doing a stellar job with our other relationships...

  3. getting married to each other would take *that* pressure off both of us...

  4. and

  5. it would be fun...

it seemed like a good idea to him.

so i asked, "would you move from connecticut? or would i have to leave san francisco?"

but he said, "no, no, nothing like that. we could just meet occassionally somewhere in the middle. like chicago."

and the more we IMed, the more it sounded like a fine arrangement: be married to a great guy; keep everything else pretty much the same. i mean, i figure we'd stop seeing other people once we were old enough to have to live together or until i was ready to have kids. but that's not for like, 5 or 10 more years.

so, yep, i agreed.

"you should ask your imagingary internet friends what they think first, though," he said. "we could be the first couple in history to get married (or not) by Blog Opinion."

so there it is. we now have the like, the modern-day version of asking for my hand in marriage -- but, you know, instead of asking my father (and by the way, Dad, kev says hi), Mr. Adorable's asking my blog.

watcha think?



(and not to sway your opinions or anything, but you could all totally come to the wedding, which we agreed should be in denver in november.)




*i would also totally marry jerry springer. not the point, i know, but i'm just sayin'.

** that would be me.

108 comments:

  1. Is this some kind of joke?

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  2. NO! You're going to meet the right person...you have to be patient!! Good guys are not easy to come by, if they were I would have like 5 or 6!! When you do find the right Him, it's going to be great and you will have gone through enough crap to realize that He would be the one for you!

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  3. I've always wanted to go to Denver.

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  4. wait, so you're saying i shouldn't accept a marriage proposal via IM? interesting...

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  5. My favorite is that someone asked if this was some kind of joke. Have they read your blog?

    I love Denver, so I accept your invitation.

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  6. Denver in November!?! It isn't what I always hoped for you but love knows no boundaries.

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  7. Sounds like a dodgy cocktail-induced scheme to me. What's the point of being married if you'll ony ever meet as occasional acquaintences? (sounds a bit like my sister's marriage)

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  8. dodgy...yes, i think that's the word i would use too....

    the proposal sounds very touching...very creative...it ought to be on some list somewhere of creative ways to pop the question...

    the marriage on the other hand? honey, whose gonna take care of you if/when you get sick or something? that's kinda an odd commute for him to bring you soup and kleenex...but maybe you don't get sick? LOL...

    this whole thing cracks me up...my face when i read the title "Oh, And I'm Engaged"...like huh?!

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  9. Gee, I'm so new on the comment list, I have a chance to say something that might not yet have been said 30 million times!

    On one hand, it's an inarguably BRILLIANT idea to involve your blog. So, you're a genius, and this guy who, once upon a time lived at his country club and took a 19 year old his friend met once schlepping coffee in a Minnie Mouse costume to a Fancy Company Holiday Party, ALSO sounds like a brilliant genius in an incredibly snarky way. You would have completely brilliant kids.

    The real problem is that marriages like that rarely work out...but if anyone could do it, it'd be you and Mr. Adorable! Y'all sound like prime candidates for that kind of marriage, plus (like I said before) you'd have brilliant kids, although you don't have to be married to have those.

    So, yeah, if you want to get married to him for the pop culture brilliance, not to mention you like him and wouldn't mind booty calls in Chicago and REALLY wouldn't mind having to get your own chicken soup when you're sick (excellent point, bezbabe) or kill your own spiders or anything, then...keep on keeping on. And I totally want to go to denver.

    However. I bet the second you do it, you'll find the perfect man for you who happens to live in SF and loves wearing the things you knit for him, and you'll have to divorce Mr. Adorable, and it will all be a big mess. Or you could discover that Mr. Adorable is that guy, and you could move back to Connecticut, or he could move to cold and foggy San Fran. :)

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  10. OMG, I'm at that point too that I sometimes want to hop a plane to Cancun and marry my friend who lives there, just to be married, and be in Cancun, even though HE DRIVES ME INSANE TO SPENDING MORE THAN 2 DAYS WITH HIM. But like aarwebb says, the second I do, my knight in shinning armor will show up at my house and then what? I'll be in Cancun and I wouldn't know he was there for me. Oh hells bells. What's a girl to do. Also, Denver isn't all it cracked up to be in the winter. My family lives there and is always complaining. I'd stay here if I were you. =)

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  11. I say Pro and Con it and let the longer list prevail! Still loving your posts everyday. First thing I do when I log into work is drink my sweet tea and read your blog. I think you are cool beyond words!

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  12. The sad thing is that I actually know someone who is married and they 2 live in different states, for no reason at all. They meet up once a month. They were both too stubborn to move, go figure.

    But personally, I want to see his picture first. And if you do end up getting married and invite all your imaginary friends to the wedding, make sure you bring "Hello my name is ____" name tags. And a bright purple Sharpee©.

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  14. 'k sheila, i totally understand. photo has been added. it's not (imho) the best shot, but it'll give you an idea. :)

    (and kids, i hope you all understand that i am only like, *this* serious about all this.)

    (but then, he *is* adorable...)

    ;)

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  15. Do I have to pay for it? Dad

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  16. When you're looking, you can't find sand at the beach. I say give it a little more than 'this' much thought and then, maybe just do it. You could have a no-hard-feelings clause that says if either of you then meets the spouse of your dreams, it's over. And if your blog-sanctified marriage scares off potential real mates, well, would you really want to marry someone without a zany sense of humor anyway? Added bonus: if you don't accumulate much asset or debt as a couple, you have 5 years in which to get a really SIMPLE (2 forms!) divorce!

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  17. well... I love your blog, as aunt purl says - I think I have a girl crush on you. So if you "fiance" is as cool as you are, you can crash at my place for the honeymoon; I live in Denver :D

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  18. I would totally and completely go for it. Ten years is a long time to be able to get along with someone. And your kids would be very cute.

    PS. Just cause I'm an internet friend does not mean I'm imaginary :)

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  19. works for me. if I didn't have kids I would totally do it if I were in the same situation.

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  20. I'm a little confused. What exactly is the purpose of this wedding? What would you gain from it?

    You can still talk on IM or the phone without being married. You can have phone-sex w/o marriage. And you can date other people without marriage. Maybe you should just have him as a backup...like when you turn XX years old.

    BTW, Denver?! Did I miss the part about you being a HUGE skiing fan? Cuz I'm been to the SF Ritz and I think it would be quite nice - I'm in finance as well, and something tells me that my Mr. V. Important Fin Services guy in Conneticut(hint hint) is probably doing OK!

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  21. Denver is great but not always in November. Denver in July is great.

    I think you should do it.

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  22. Do Kristy, do it! Dating is hell! I'm currently in the process of trying to find a convent that will take me, and gets basic cable. And just think of the gifts!!

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  23. If that is in fact his REAL picture and it isn't like 10 years old and he has really gotten fat and ugly, I say sleep with him. Who needs to marry him? Ok, I am joking. I am not a slut.

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  24. Hi - I'm one of your imaginary internet friends (my name is Rose, hi nice to meet you) and you finally enticed me out of lurkdom to comment because I LOVE GOING TO WEDDINGS. So I say Yes, and I'll see you in November. Where will you be registered? I give really nice wedding gifts.

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  25. First thing I did when I saw the picture was scroll down the page to see if it was the same one that the other guy sent...

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  26. yes kids, it's real. i'm going to get married because an ex-boyfriend proposed over IM. and my dad is going to pay for it. and i'm going to invite a few hundred people i've never met before. and also, nancy is going to join a convent.

    see how this works?

    :)

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  27. honestly i think love is love if you really feel committed to this guy and really like him and feel like you click with him than ya sure go ahead, i think its a sweet way of asking you though. do what you think is best... for you and him.

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  28. Since all the other lurkers are coming out of the woodworks, I suppose I should too...

    Mr. Adorable is pretty cute. You should totally go for it. And while you're at it, set up a live digi-cam feed, so your other imaginary internet friends who can't make it will be able to watch from home. That's why you had to wait the 10 years. Technology had to catch up to your wedding plans.

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  29. Hello! Long time reader, first time responder...(tee hee)

    This totally sounds like that Barbara Streisand movie where she ends up marrying her friend the math teacher and the marriage ends up all kinds of crazy and Bryan Adams sings the duet with her...

    yeah. sorry.

    If I were in your pretty shoes, I don't know what I would do. One can sit here and say.."Oh my god, NO! You CAN'T do that! It's over the INTERWEB!!!*gasp*" but they don't have the working relationship that you do.

    The only thing I can suggest is to really look at this situation and be honest with yourself. You should never settle..because from what I read, you are fantastic. You are a PRIZE, and someone would be lucky to win your love and devotion.

    /end scene.

    Love,
    Shelly..the crazy Mexican Diva.

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  30. Dear Crazy Lady from the blog:

    I wouldn't marry a guy who IM's me a marriage proposals(then again I wouldnt marry a guy) That's just to weird. Now if he would have proposed via fax or telepathically, maybe.

    Don't get married yet, I just got into your blog.

    Why does he want to meet you in cold cities ie: Chicago, Denver? I'm thinking frostbite: Number one reason for divorce, frozen genitalia or something.

    eh! but who am I to judge.

    Love,

    UNDr

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  31. What a Hottie!

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  32. Whoa, reading that entry was a surprise... just like it was a surprise how he proposed to you over IM. Hmm... it seems reasonable. But... I'll miss your internet dating horror stories especially - or the future ones. Sounds selfish I know, it's not like I come across a blog I actually like. I'm a horrible person. Really.

    Anyway, you should do what you want to do. Question is, what do you want?

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  33. Is this some kind of joke?

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  34. can you move the wedding to someplace warm and tropical? i like bali. if you move it to bali, i'm all for it!

    -el snarkster

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  35. And all you had to do was wait three more weeks, when I move to San Francisco!

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  36. hmmm, this all depends... will there be an open bar at the wedding?

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  37. Can I be a bridesmaid?




    *snickers*

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  38. Just found your blog through the random generator thing...

    My vote would be no. Unless you are sure that you're Giving Up. It's always a sad day when someone Gives Up.

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  39. why does anonymous keep asking if this is a joke? is that some kind of joke? :)
    (love the post...)

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  40. Ok, dumb idea and here's why.
    A) It's my idea, but you don't live separately across the country; you live down the street from each other. Think same zip code.
    B) If you marry that dude, you'll miss out on me. And, aside from everything else, I'm a closer long distance type.
    C) That's probably not even his real picture (I know, you say you know him, but how well do we really know anyone from ten years ago?)

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  41. Yeah, do it. He is soooo cute and just think of all the material this long-distance marriage will give you for your blog(not that you needed any). Not to mention the hours of entertainment for us, your imaginery internet friends.

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  42. Kristy-
    Well if you're honeymooning at Grace's may I offer up my yard for the reception... ;~) (if it's sonwing we can make some snowmen for groomsmen...)

    Hilarious post!! (Gotta love the comments on this one, too...)

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  43. if you're sure you like him, and not just settling for the second best, why not? ;)

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  44. ramblin',

    i LOVE the comments on this one (though it's a bit like i've stumbled into the twilight zone version of the blogosphere).


    randomly,

    open bar? well of course, dear. i am a woman of class.


    serre,

    yes. and i will choose a dress that's especially low cut.


    anonymous,
    YES IT IS A JOKE.

    (mostly.)

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  45. 1) What is with the people who assume your blog and life would be over if you got married?? You'd still knit, for God's sake!
    2) Maybe the greater adventure is to remain single. Not because you would continue to long for love and dream at strangers' glances on the city bus system, but because in order to have an interesting life, you would have (only) your own resources to draw upon. If alone, you can't rely on a man's interests, money, social connections, etc. So you would sort of have to become extra interesting. That's what I've come to conclude almost a year after ending my own ill-fated engagement.
    3) However, I wholeheartedly believe in true love, as rare as it is. If by any speck of chance you are drawn to this idea honestly because it fits your wildest dreams, you may have no choice but to follow that dream wherever it may lead, as sung by the handsomest man ever to live, Elvis Presley.

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  46. Dear Kristy,

    I say definitely no. It'd decimate your blog readership stats. At the moment you are cute, witty, well endowed, write well, and have a nice ass. And single. In short: the perfect imaginary internet crush. And, of course, I have to check the blog of my imaginary internet crush daily, as does every other single male this side of the web.

    But who wants to have an imaginary internet crush on some engaged chick? And why would I read the blog of some random knitter for whom I don't have an imaginary internet crush?

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  47. Kristy darling,

    I am another one of your imaginary i-net friends and I totally have a girl crush on you. I hope that one day you do whatever it takes to get published, because you make so many people smile and resonate with you.

    About this marriage thing...Something tells me that you don't really want an opinion, do you? Cos you are happy and excied that it DID in fact happen, a nice funny smart and totally adorable guy proposed to YOU. Yes, over IM, and no, you are not going to move in right away and you probably won't die the same day. But! This is life. And it's like this. Wierd and bizzare and unpredictable and full of surpises. Just like you :)) Worst case scenario, you will get divorced and have another hilarious story to tell to your ever-growing imaginary crowd, starting, "I married this guy after he proposed to me on IM...."

    I say GOOD LUCK. I am so happy for you. And touched. And hopefull that one day it can maybe happen to me too [sigh*].

    Would you come to my wedding? :)

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  48. i love your dad! his comment made me laugh. :)

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  49. I have a friend that we keep toying with the same idea. Equally adorable, too.

    That fact I dated his younger brother for 2 years makes it a little weird. We both teach, so I figure while we live seperately 9 months of the year, we would have 3 together!

    I am on the same seriousness factor on this as you.

    But DANG! I would LOVE to marry a hottie who I can have great conversations with!

    Definate maybe--for both of our situations.

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  50. Ummm....I think I dated this guy. Or maybe just had a one night stand. Looks familiar.......hmmm?

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  51. Um.. so are you really SURe this is a picture of HIM ::laughing:: it has been 10 years... I just hope next time you talk he doesn't say "I have something to tell you"

    Mia

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  52. I think it sounds like a fabulous marriage! You are friends, you are apparently compatable on some "beyond friends" level and who needs some man coming in and clogging up your singledom of doing whatever the hell you want when you want...

    Go for it.

    Denver sounds great!

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  53. I am a big believer in fate (collective eye roll coming forthwith) BUT... there IS a reason why he's been there 10 years and no one else has. So I know you're joking, but it DOES have you thinking, doesn't it? :) Interesting...

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  54. I think you should do it. Sounds like a fabulous arrangement to me. If nothing else, he could be your safety. ;)

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  55. Please do it for my readng pleasure! Selfish? of course! I am firm believer in doing things JUST for the stories that are gained!

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  56. Hmmm...lemme see here....
    We have an open bar, a low cut dress, Dad footin' the bill, you have the whole marriage question answered, he is pretty cute, obviously the two of you would have adorably genius children...what the hell? Why not?
    I wonder...can you concieve via IM's?

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  57. Oh honey....if you don't, I will! He is just adorable and you know what Katherine Hepburn said? She said and I quote "Maybe men and women are not meant to live together, maybe they were meant to live next door to one another and visit now and then"...I couldn't agree more!

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  58. Hi. *waves*

    First of all, if you do it, you will be able to refer to all other dating relationships henceforth as "affairs" which is cool.

    And also, when you come to Chicago for your Annual Marriage Meetings, I can take you out and get you wasted.

    So, cheers. :)

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  59. Your dad's comment really elucidates where your sense of humor came from.

    You should totally marry the hottie you nearly got fired for at 19. What a fantastic story you would be able to tell your (eventual) children.

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  60. Helpful comments from imaginary internet friends can only take you so far. I'd say that pre-acceptance of IM marriage proposal, you go on the honeymoon, see if there are still sparks. I mean, it has been 10 years. (Sorry Kristy's dad)

    SJ

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  61. Wait, so you're saying that you're not going to accept a marriage proposal from your Ex given over IM?

    ;)

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  62. This is an amazing idea and maybe it might just work. But then I only found you three days ago and love the singleton stuff too much to vote yes. Hold out just a little bit longer - Mr Perfect might just be around the corner and waiting to bump into you and help you pick your dropped books up and then he'll look in your eyes and you'll just know.

    *Sigh*

    Or maybe yes. It would make a great novel.
    x

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  63. I'll be there!
    divorce is always an option..or an open marriage in case some that oh...say...lives in the same city or even state as you do.
    is that a horrible thing to say?

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  64. found this as the best on craigslist.. and got addicted.

    what woman doesn't have a deal or a friend that they'd get engaged to because why not? i have a deal with one of my friends. yeah.... it makes life a little more interesting.. at least your mr. adorable is cute. ;)

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  65. Dude, diana totally rocks my world! If only I lived in chicago!

    And I'm selfish, too. Although an open bar at the wedding and the shredding near Denver are attractive (besides, I just remembered I have family there!)...I'd prefer you single so I can read your stuff. Married People Are Boring.

    Yes, even you.

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  66. I think its a fantastic idea and you should have the wedding cybercast! Then I don't have to leave warm Houston. ;-)

    Seriously, very "When Harry Met Sally". And yes, these things can work out! At least you'll never get bored of him.

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  67. Where are you registered? I would love to be an imaginary internet bridesmaid!!

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  68. when you say "Denver" are we talking: cute ski resort just outside of Denver that will close down to accomodate all of your imaginary internet friends taking over? If so, then yes, get married, in Denver, and maybe all your guests could receive knitted hats by the bride (and/or bridesmaids)as favors for their skiing adventures. You could do the invites over evite.com to save some money and keep with your computer/blogging/im relationship theme!

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  69. I hope you guys have pre-nup and all.. This marriage is bound for disaster. All these people who are encouraging you to go with this show, are having fun at your expense .. I hope you are just kidding. This marriage, when it does happen, is bound to be a disaster.

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  70. I'm a minister (Universal Life Church) - I would LOVE to perform the ceremony. But Denver is kind of lame, can we move it to Crested Butte or Telluride - that way we can all go Snowboarding!!! - Oh wait, this is YOUR wedding.
    Hey, even if it doesn't work out - you can do one of those $600 no fault do it yourself divorces from Nolo press.

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  71. long time imaginary friend reader, first time imaginary friend commenter.

    when i was your age (or younger) i made a deal (with 2 separate guys) that if we were both still single by the time we were 30, we'd get married. i don't know where i got that idea from, maybe a Meg Ryan movie or an episode of Murphy Brown when Murphy thought she was going to die in a plane crash and suggested that to the bald guy who had a crush on her.

    on or around my 30th birthday, i kind of panicked, because what if they held me to my (drunken, emotional) word? and what if they both showed up at the same time?

    of course, there was no call and no duel in my front yard. i think now i realize it was the *sentiment* of acknowledging we were both cool people, and we loved each other in one of those types of loves that didn't have a good label to explain to your mother why this guy makes you light up but somehow he's not going to be her son in law.

    you need a real boyfriend, and a real husband. someone who will rub your feet, tell you when you look pretty, and listen to you bitch about your day. you need someone to go and do things with, to fight with, and to find your quirkiness loveable. and yes, they should be in the same area code, or at least in the same time zone. you. deserve. better.

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  72. I am certain I have seen this before..

    I think it was "My Best Friend's Wedding"

    I say move on.. tons of guys around the Bay Area.. just have to wait for the right moment

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  73. I love how concerned "Anonymous" is! the "is this a joke" or "all these people (hello! We're imaginary INTERNET friends!) who are encouraging you to go along with this show" are classic and make me laugh. Get your pre nup drafted, Kristy, and make sure you put all of the things you knit in it or Mr. Adorable may try to make off with some baby blankets if this doesn't work out!

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  74. You should so do it. Why?
    1. Chicago is too cold a place to live, but it's an awesome place to visit. Shopping, nightlife, really good steak and deep dish pizza - how can you not love it? And I say this as a fellow San Francisco girl.
    2. Whenever you guys are together, it will be novel and exciting - so you'll always have special-occasion-hotel sex. Never the boring-Monday-night-after-TV sex that regular couples end up having after awhile. Your entire relationship will consist of the fun, sexy stuff.
    3. You can live it u[ like a single girl for the next 5-10 years and never worry that all the good ones will be taken once you're finally ready to settle down. I love my man to death, but sometimes I miss having sole control of the remote and the freedom to give my number to hot strangers.
    4. If you do meet The One, and he's not your husband, you'll know he's really for you because you'll be willing to give up your perfect dream husband/safety net to be with him. And isn't that romantic?

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  75. Well, I counted YES you should go for it and the NOOOO comments! I have 22 YES and 15 NO so far - May 16th, 1:52pm.

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  76. You should do it.. What’s the worse that could happen? You have to get a divorce, that happens all the, and you have known this guy for 10+ years...I would

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  77. No, no, no!

    He is admittedly cute and you seem to have a good chemistry, but how about trying something like some old-fashioned, low-tech, in-person dating?

    That way you'd get to gather a lot more information about what it's like to be with him now (rather than relying on Tom Collins-infused 10-year-old memories) AND we, your devoted, imaginary internet friends could have a front row seat watching it all unfold.

    Great blog. I read it daily and have even got a few friends hooked on it, too. I'm just waiting for your book contract to come through.

    Carrie

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  78. First of all let me just say I don't have the patience to sit down and write every day like you do (though I can say I have the same apparent affinity for wine which is totally unimportant right now, but what the hell, right?).
    Now, that said, I totally think you should marry the guy. What do you have to lose, right? You don't have to be bothered with dirty socks or jocks...nose picking or nose hairs....belching or farting...and all of the other generally disturbing things men have or do that you don't see unless you live with a guy. You don't have to deal with him if you are PMSing....it may well be the perfect situation. Think about it....

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  79. K,

    Be picky and wait...so I say no!

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  80. I have to comment on a comment: "so you'll always have special-occasion-hotel sex. Never the boring-Monday-night-after-TV sex that regular couples end up having after awhile."

    Regular couple or not, if sex is boring, you're doing it wrong. I trust you are the sort who can figure out how to do it right.

    Looking forward to the wedding.

    IIF*

    *Imaginary Internet Friend

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  81. forget the nay sayers! I say DO IT UP! (not that what i say matters but if it did) You only live once right? Welll even if you live twice or multiple lives you should still enjoy it...and on a side note what is with all the hot unfinished business types moving to CT? I have one there myself...used to have 2 there

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  82. Skip Cunningham3:11 PM, May 16, 2005

    I think you should have a long distance marriage with a writer-actor guy in LA. Better weather than Colorado, and maybe you'll get lucky and he'll have a dog who likes frisbee.

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  83. No, don't do it.. Those who say yes is urging you to do something that 90% of them will never do themselves.. and you know what they say about giving advice on this you are unwilling to do yourself.

    I agree with Skip, have at it with the Writer-Actor dude

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  84. If you go for it, seems like a good way to head into marriage #3... good luck!

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  85. The stage is my apartment. The dinner table is set. Food is ready. Candles are lit.

    The song playing is "I go crazy" by Paul Davis. And I am slow dancing with my girl. There is this slight smile on my face as I look into her eyes and lip-synch to the words of the song.

    I hope it would happen someday. That I would be able to look into the eyes of someone the same way I imagined it.

    So I refuse to settle. I guess I am only 26, but still my "Never been in love" factor bothers me. A lot.

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  86. hey now,

    i was only MARRIED once.

    engaged is a different story.

    -k

    p.s. Skip is maybe not the most impartial commenter. :P

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  87. In response to anonymous earlier - I'm sorry, but no matter how great the relationship and the sex are, I think here is a difference between the way sex is when it's a special occasion and you really get to have all the details in place (a swanky hotel room, a couple of months spent apart fantasizing about seeing each other again, dress up clothes, a romantic night out on the town, a bottle of champagne...) and the more routine sex you have when you are together all the time and it's just a regular weeknight, where you both worked that day, and maybe had to come home and do laundry and cook dinner and pay bills, and you both have to be up at dawn tomorrow for work. Not that it makes it *bad* sex, just that on the scale, it's not going to rank as high as the type you have when you have the luxury of a whole vacation with nothing to do but focus on each other and having fun together. It's not an issue of your chemistry or how much you're into each other - I just don’t agree that normal people with jobs and lives will be able to make every single encounter have the same "wow" factor each and every time they do it.

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  88. I say take Skip up on his offer.

    It's only an hour to LA on Southwest or JetBlue.

    And we can travel together, when I go visit my best friend.

    But only if Skip is ok going to The Abbey. I love The Abbey.

    (and I still want to be a bridesmaid)

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  89. It's a whole new world hon, so if you want and need to be married go for it. Will ski lift tickets be included with the wedding guest's swag?

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  90. I say go for it. I'm owed a wedding invitation from you anyway! I've never been to denver...

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  91. Where are you registered? Williams-Sonoma? Macy's? ImagiKnits?

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  92. what ever happened to the guy he worked with that you originally gave your number to?

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  93. Ericha2@comcast.net7:32 PM, May 16, 2005

    Ok...my best friend Sandy and I totally have a pact to end up as an old lesbian couple living in Lancaster County, PA someday. We decided this in 1992 or 1993 when we were still in high school. She's now married for the 2nd time and pregnant with her 4th child, I've been with my boyfriend for over 5 years but we still talk about it.

    I think if he would really make you happy, go for it. However, if what you're really looking for is love, companionship, regular sex...that's kinda hard with a few thousand miles between ya. You could always pull a "Same Time Next Year" and meet each other for one weekend every year for a secret rendezvous. *sigh* I love that movie! If you've never seen it, please rent it and see Alan Alda and Ellen Burstyn in an amazing romantic drama. Good 'girls night' movie.

    Either way, best of luck and I want an invite...I've never been to Denver. And I will have an excuse to wear my fur coat. :)

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  94. i'm already in Denver - score! i can help plan =)

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  95. The minister checking in again...so can I do the honors??? I suggest writing your own vows, that way you can slip in a reference to the 5000 tom collinses. I have a tri-color knit afghan that I could wear!!

    Marrying someone you've known for 10yrs through IM isn't nearly as bad as getting drunk in Vegas and waking up hitched!

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  96. hmmm... the minister makes a good point... people marry for much more ridiculous reasons all the time... but if you do get hitched, Mr. Adorable understands that you'll continue reporting on the hotties on the muni (and everywhere) for the rest of us, right?!
    ;~)

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  97. I've always though it would be fun to marry a close friend on a whim, so I can't possibly endorse this more.

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  98. yay! #100! did you ever think you'd ever get so many responses to one post? crazy.

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  99. i just wanted to be able to give you the pleasure of now being able to say that you got OVER a hundred responses to this proposition...

    hey, anybody ever notice that proposition and proposal start the same way? hmmmm, interesting...

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  100. Do it! Trust me, the unexpected path is the most fun.

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  101. Do it! Trust me, the unexpected path is the most fun.

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  102. First of all, Mom would be happy! You know how she felt about him (piano doll). Second of all, if that would in any way lure you into moving back to the east coast then I say do it as soon as possible! Love you....

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  103. Marry him! my husband and I spent our first 3 1/2 years more than 1500 miles apart only seeing each other once a month.. it was perfect. it was wonderful.. it was like courtship in the old days but with sex!

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  104. K,
    I think you and boy wonder are just looney enough to pull off a real, long distance marriage! The conversation is wonderful, you have Kodak moments captured in time of when each of you are in your prime to adore, and every physical meeting would be like a first date! If this happens in Denver, I want to be your flowergirl!

    respectfully,
    Dave

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  105. He's handsome K, Congratulations for you because you are already engaged. I know that you are so happy with your man. How I wish we will be engaged too but it seems that I'm not yet ready for the said journey because I want to do lots of things. Anyways marriage is merely different between engaged but if you will for it let it be I guess good things awaits for both for you. Good luck for that K.

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  106. Congrats , lucky girl . keep your future family growing . wish i could be as lucky as you :)

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