Hope Springs Eternal
sometimes i get emails from imaginary internet friends and they are nice and sweet and supportive.
sometimes i get emails from imaginary internet friends that are not as nice or sweet, but they are usually supportive in their own way.
sometimes i get emails from men who are smart and interesting and attractive but are geographically challenged, maritally challenged, or both.
i hold out hope, though, that maybe someday the Perfect Guy will find my blog and write me or IM me and it will be the beginning of a beautiful friendship. you know? because really, i am nothing if not optimistic.
and so when this evening i received an IM from a mystery man, i thought -- maybe this could be the Perfect Guy.
or, well.
here is a transcript of our conversation.
it is completely unedited except for the guy's IM name. the italics are my inner-yippety-yap:
randomguy: hi
kristy: hello
randomguy: i like your blog
kristy: thank you
[i look and confirm that he is IMing me at my dedicated blog-IM address in my profile.]
hmmm. okay. here's someone contacting me to chat because he(?) likes my blog. taking intiative. flattering. this could be good.
randomguy: i am in fremont
kristy: those are both good things to know
well, at least i now know you read and you read my blog and you were interested enough to check my profile and to send me an IM. and you're local, as opposed to living on a different continent. so far, so good.
randomguy: :)
kristy: :)
randomguy: can i ask u any questions..and u can ask me anything
uh oh. using "u" for "you" is often a red flag. plus we have some syntactical stuff going on here with the "can i ask u / and u can". but maybe he's smart and just cutting to the chase.
kristy: okay
kristy: you can ask me questions, sure
yeah, maybe he has a serious question to ask me about my content or approach or something.
randomguy: cool...do u talk abiut sex on your blog?masturbation?
kristy: lol
the "lol" slipped out there, but i had to laugh. because by "i like your blog" you are really saying "i haven't actually read your blog but i noticed you're female and in san francisco and have a readily available IM address."
that's charming. *sigh*
best be direct in my response.
kristy: no
randomguy: lol
"lol"? wonder what's funny about my saying no.
randomguy: ask me now
"ask you now" what? are you asking me to ask you if you blog about masturbation? or just about masturbation at large? because either way, ARE YOU KIDDING ME?
randomguy: when did u last masturbate?
kristy: um
need to end this now.
kristy: see, here i thought we were going to engage in actual banter
randomguy: i am...i guess
you are?
randomguy: i guess i thought about it...because i havent for a while
what? what are you talking about? you thought you were engaging me in banter by bringing up masturbation three sentences in?
you are unbelievable.
also, this is not a good sign, kristy. this guy is trolling the internet looking for some woman to engage him in discussion about when he last masturbated, and for some reason he chose you.
you might want to consider that...
randomguy: hello
oops, took too long to reply. guess he thought you were ignoring him. ha!
kristy: hi
how do i put this?
kristy: i'm not really interested in discussing masturbation with you
randomguy: k..havea nice evening
kristy: k
buh-bye.
um. so maybe not the Perfect Guy.
this time.
sometimes i get emails from imaginary internet friends that are not as nice or sweet, but they are usually supportive in their own way.
sometimes i get emails from men who are smart and interesting and attractive but are geographically challenged, maritally challenged, or both.
i hold out hope, though, that maybe someday the Perfect Guy will find my blog and write me or IM me and it will be the beginning of a beautiful friendship. you know? because really, i am nothing if not optimistic.
and so when this evening i received an IM from a mystery man, i thought -- maybe this could be the Perfect Guy.
or, well.
here is a transcript of our conversation.
it is completely unedited except for the guy's IM name. the italics are my inner-yippety-yap:
randomguy: hi
kristy: hello
randomguy: i like your blog
kristy: thank you
[i look and confirm that he is IMing me at my dedicated blog-IM address in my profile.]
hmmm. okay. here's someone contacting me to chat because he(?) likes my blog. taking intiative. flattering. this could be good.
randomguy: i am in fremont
kristy: those are both good things to know
well, at least i now know you read and you read my blog and you were interested enough to check my profile and to send me an IM. and you're local, as opposed to living on a different continent. so far, so good.
randomguy: :)
kristy: :)
randomguy: can i ask u any questions..and u can ask me anything
uh oh. using "u" for "you" is often a red flag. plus we have some syntactical stuff going on here with the "can i ask u / and u can". but maybe he's smart and just cutting to the chase.
kristy: okay
kristy: you can ask me questions, sure
yeah, maybe he has a serious question to ask me about my content or approach or something.
randomguy: cool...do u talk abiut sex on your blog?masturbation?
kristy: lol
the "lol" slipped out there, but i had to laugh. because by "i like your blog" you are really saying "i haven't actually read your blog but i noticed you're female and in san francisco and have a readily available IM address."
that's charming. *sigh*
best be direct in my response.
kristy: no
randomguy: lol
"lol"? wonder what's funny about my saying no.
randomguy: ask me now
"ask you now" what? are you asking me to ask you if you blog about masturbation? or just about masturbation at large? because either way, ARE YOU KIDDING ME?
randomguy: when did u last masturbate?
kristy: um
need to end this now.
kristy: see, here i thought we were going to engage in actual banter
randomguy: i am...i guess
you are?
randomguy: i guess i thought about it...because i havent for a while
what? what are you talking about? you thought you were engaging me in banter by bringing up masturbation three sentences in?
you are unbelievable.
also, this is not a good sign, kristy. this guy is trolling the internet looking for some woman to engage him in discussion about when he last masturbated, and for some reason he chose you.
you might want to consider that...
randomguy: hello
oops, took too long to reply. guess he thought you were ignoring him. ha!
kristy: hi
how do i put this?
kristy: i'm not really interested in discussing masturbation with you
randomguy: k..havea nice evening
kristy: k
buh-bye.
um. so maybe not the Perfect Guy.
this time.
Well, I guess, NOW you actually do talk about mastrubation on your blog, so he wasn't totally off-base. :)
ReplyDeletemore bad things men say...
ReplyDeleteAh, dear Kristy. I'm so sorry that there are such gross, disgusting vermin trolling your blog. Please know that there are (mostly) normal people stalking you too. I'm a huge fan. Thanks for your blog!
ReplyDeletegotta love the sick IMs. how often do these people actually get the hits they're hoping for? anyone that wants me to *type* out a blow job or whatever else is severly demented. maybe i'm naive, i dunno.
ReplyDeletehe just wanted you to talk about him on your site and you did...and now he's masturbating over it.
rock on.
WHAT A WEIRDO!
ReplyDeleteSad to say but there are SOOOOO many guys out there trolling the Internet, and the first thing they ask a woman is, "do you like sex?"
Geez, quit being so cheap and pay the $2.99 a minute!
Ummm, so me, fellow sufferer of mashed-potato boob and bad, bad date sufferer? Met a boy. An awesome boy. A super-sweet, smart, funny, patient, understanding boy. Where, you ask? Online of course! It's not like I got a life in the last several weeks or anything. The math you need to consider? For ever 100 frogs you kiss, there will be ONE almost prince. You just have to keep the faith.
ReplyDeleteUmmm, so me, fellow sufferer of mashed-potato boob and bad, bad date sufferer? Met a boy. An awesome boy. A super-sweet, smart, funny, patient, understanding boy. Where, you ask? Online of course! It's not like I got a life in the last several weeks or anything. The math you need to consider? For ever 100 frogs you kiss, there will be ONE almost prince. You just have to keep the faith.
ReplyDeleteoh you guys,
ReplyDeleteyou're sweet...but really, i have been online a LONG time. stuff like this doesn't faze me at all. i just can't believe there are still men out there *doing* that. it's so trite and boring.
the only reason i posted it at all is because it was just so classic, and happend to happen while i was writing a different/funny (soon-to-be posted) entry.
love you all though!!
um... Kristy... as long as there are men out there, they will be doing that. "doing" that has been around a lot longer than the internet. internet just makes deviant behavior easier. good to know you're a seasoned net user; always wise to be somewhat cautious and smart, right? internet street smarts and managing your way thru Amsterdam (or NYC or SF or Des Moines... )makes for smart thirtysomething'ers!!! :)
ReplyDeleteGood thing I haven't taken my morning shower yet, because after reading that, I really need to take one!
ReplyDeleteSorry that you have some creeps stalking you. I know the feeling, but yours always seem to top mine.
Good luck out there!
Kristy,
ReplyDeleteThe timing of this is so funny...it happened to me on Friday night, claimed to be a woman, but probably a man. So, so wrong.
But funny wrong.
~Kurt
Masturbation....? Never heard of it! ;-)
ReplyDeleteThat is so so classic. What do you mean you don't talk about masterbation, with not only all who read your blog, but with all random IMers? They should really just all talk to each other. I wonder if they have a Over-Masterbaters Anonymous somewhere?
ReplyDeleteFor fun, you should place an ad in the craigslist's personals using that guy's IM id. Of course, you should put it in the 'men looking for men' section :-)
ReplyDeleteApologize for what wordynerd? My friends and I are the reason Kristy has a list of the worst things guys have said to her. Well, mostly me after I get a few drinks down. And although I have never met her, I'm sure I've said everything on the list. Oh, by the way, it is acutally funny people are so starved for affection they will randomly IM someone looking for sex.
ReplyDeleteHard to see the forest through the sleaze. Gives all us guys a bad name, then nobody trusts us. I'm a perfect gentlemen on AIM, right? But there's still no such thing as a "Perfect Guy".
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