Tuesday, August 02, 2005

so...tired...

just a little note to say that:
  • i have new yarn and knitting updates

  • i have pictures that aren't totally undecipherable, but still pretty not-so-good that i'll be posting anyway

  • i haven't yet told you about some of the other WORST things men have ever said to me

  • i am really, actually, truly swearing off internet dating SOON*

and things of that ilk. try and contain your excitement.

in the meantime, i'll just say that i had a very disconcerting moment tonight, when the man who i have come to know and love (because he runs the indian restaurant i absolutely depend upon for carb-happy meals) threw my world into a tailspin by asking me out for drinks. GAH!

more on this (and everything) soon.



*after like, just one or two more. i swear.

29 comments:

  1. I hope you said "yes". Tikka Masala that good doesn't knock twice.

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  2. we're all waiting in great expectation. Now that you are a celebrity, you musn't dissappoint your fans. No time for sleep now woman :)

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  3. trust a man to misunderstand a love for his culinary skills as something more.

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  4. Blech! That invite must have creeped you out beyond all belief!

    Don't worry about the tired. It's the new job. Every time I start a new job, I find myself exhausted for the first couple of weeks. I blame information overload.

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  5. hmmmm. don't risk it. it's hard to find good restaurants that don't cost limbs and/or first born children.

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  6. So was it the man you came to know and love or his meals? And was it disconcerting and tailspinning because it shook you at your core because you realized you loved the man or because you realized you loved the meals, and not the man? It can be disconcerting and tailspinning when one discovers one loves the man, and not the things (or vice versa!). Keep up the good work, Kristy!

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  7. He sounds like a dahl. Maybe you should go.

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  8. Don't give up on internet dating...that is how I met my wonderful husband. You do have to kiss a lot of frogs, but it will pay off. And unless the Indian restaurant guy is: 1.) elderly, 2.) balding with a comb-over that rivals The Donald, 3.) heinously lecherous and creepy, or 4.) all of the above and then some maybe you should go for drinks...think of all the free carbs that could mean!

    I can't believe I gave you a multiple choice quiz--it must be almost time to get back to school, I'm having withdrawal from tormenting students apparently! Sorry...

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  9. ....having a bad morning here after my sister just informed me that my new bf (whom I met on CL) "creeps her out"....so thanks for giving me something funny to read and make me smile...thru the tears...

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  10. I feel like I'm watching Doc Hollywood, and listening to stories about someone's cousin in Los Angeles dating the Pakistani! Hey, I met my Nepalese prince 21 years ago. Go for it!

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  11. hahaha Janis is funny.

    You should go out with him.

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  12. Is he hot, or at least cute? And more importantly not creepy? The only potential problem I see here is that you would go on a few dates with Indian restaurant man, and they could go badly. And then it would be awkward to go to him for vital Indian cuisine. If you don't foresee that being a problem though, why not? It’s just drinks, right? And you never know…

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  13. Glad you're back! And I can't wait. I check your blog as often as I check my email. Anyway, I understand the disconcerting moment. Because now you're thinking 'so, has he always been thinking about dating me?' 'he's been attracted to me all this time?'

    I think drinks is way better than dinner, though.

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  14. no kids, NOT cool. weird.

    he's nice, sure. but just NO.

    maybe someone who's been there with me can explain this better than i can?

    RiseyP? Brilliant Missy? PinkJaime?

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  15. Missy already said "YES"

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  16. Sending non verbal messages (batting your eyes, touching his body, laughing, flirting) that you "love" someone (your words)... but meaning you "love" what they are selling, serving, or whatever (some may say it is using people?) ... can be mind bending for the recipient? You are 30, but you are niave... or maybe less niave today than yesterday. It's all a learning experience, anyway. Befriend a cop. And genuinely like him. You could both learn from each other.

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  17. Shorter Anonymous: You were askin' for it, wearin' that short skirt and smilin' and all! Slut!!

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  18. El, Is that how that reads? I hate when it sounds like that! It isn't what was meant, that's for sure. Your point is made. You're right. :) I was just thinking of Kristy's 25 dates and her boundries. Live and Learn.

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  19. um, i have never touched this man, unless he has shaken my hand hello (which is possible).

    i simply order food from him at his restaurant. i don't even stay and eat it there.

    i have never said i "love" anything about him, the food, or the restaurant.

    i am conversant and friendly, yes, but i CERTAINLY know the difference between being friendly and being flirty.

    just because i go on several dates doesn't mean i don't have boundaries...or standards, if that's what you mean.

    basically, my going on many dates might make me an optimist, but it does not make me naive.

    no. i am most definitely *not* naive.

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  20. I think you're making too big a deal out of it. It was just a guy asking you out. As someone who is generally pretty chicken about asking women out, this is exactly the kind of reaction that I fear. I would much rather someone just say no and not let it bleed into whatever other relationship we have. Also, it's not like he's your shrink or something. That would be creepy and tailspinning, this should probably be filed in the "no big deal" category. And don't let it interfere with your getting good meals!

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  21. Sorry, Kristy. Misunderstood your words "when the man who i have come to know and love..." Thanks for your clarification. Earlier, what i was reading seemed ambiguous. (Rare. You are becoming a great writer!) That's ok, too. Sometimes disconcerting and tailspinning can mean wow, i've just met someone wonderful and i hardly know what to do with it! Thought maybe this was the fellow. Stay optimistic!!

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  22. *waits patiently*
    *sighs*

    -el snarkster

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  23. *waits patiently*
    *sighs*

    -el snarkster

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  24. Disturbing is seeing your gyno at the police station.
    As it turns out, he was the victim of a hit and run, and I, unfortunately, had been held up.
    Still...it freaks you out for a minute!

    I keep saying I am giving up online dating, too. But my friends love my stories too much and I hate to disappoint. Something tells me it is the same for you! :)

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  26. I have been to that Indian restaurant w/K, and - this is funny - before we even went, she told me, "Oh, he's going to *love* you!" So I immediately thought she meant, "He flirts with me, so he'll flirt with you too. He's got this thing for curvy blondes..."

    But then upon meeting him, I thought, "Ah, what a friendly, avuncular guy!"

    So yeah. Not date-material. Nice as all get-out, but nahh...

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  27. i would be creeped out too. it makes you start to rethink your own actions...i wasn't flirting, did HE think i was flirting, he must've thought i was flirting, omigod what about that one time when our hands brushed against each other as he handed me my tikka....eeew.

    it's just one of those blind spot things, which is why you find it creepy. it came out of nowhere and now you're probably thinking what warped signal was this guy picking up on to make him think you were interested (in that way).

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  28. Have you tried okcupid.com? It's madly addictive and fun. And I think it has something to do with dating, but I haven't really done that with it yet!

    PS. I'm not internet dating either. Really.

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