Thursday, May 18, 2006

Divorce From Start To Finish

I inadvertently started this series by writing a single entry about my divorce. The entries aren't long or sappy, they're just the truth. These posts just came out, one after another, in pretty raw form. They need a lot of editing.

Someday maybe I'll do that.

In the meantime, please feel free to read.

And so it goes.

1. D-I-V-O-R-C-E

2. 20 / 20 Hindsight

3. Back Story

4. Screeching Halt

Artistic License: An Interlude

5. The Holidays

6. Winter

Scorpion Pie: Another Interlude

7. Thaw

8. Out Of Order

9. The April I Remember

10. May 2

Magic Wand

11. Problem Solving

12. Please Be God

13. Bad Days

14. No

15. Family

16. What Broken Looks Like

17. Grace Period

18. The Fury

19. It Calls To Me

The Picture

20. My Love Waits There

21. August: The Good, The Bad

Interlude: This Isn't A Love Story

22. September: The Ugly

Remember That Time I Fell?

23. The Dumpster

The First To Go

24. Packing It In

25. Ever After

26. Postscript (the Happy Ending)


  1. Wow. That was really good. To be honest I found your blog late last year and finally removed it from my bookmarks, because I don't know. You were funny and witty and smart but the words just didn't ring true to me. But this, this is so true, so honest and so brave to put out here. I can understand why it took a year for this to come out. Kiki you are so on your way to becoming an awesome writer. Congratulations.

  2. i don't think you "on your way" to becomming a great writer...your already there. more power to you!

  3. when does your book come out?

    :) i mean it, sister.

  4. I'm a little sad that this story has been wrapped up. I want to read more. I have checked back here multiple times daily to see if there's a new chapter. You're writing is beautiful.

    I would totally buy your memoirs all printed out in a pretty little book cover.

  5. This was a great, heart-rending read. Not to be flip, but were you always a great writer, or was it a side effect of having your entire world come crashing down?

    BTW, you're not really divorced until you do "D-I-V-O-R-C-E" at karoke! And I should know!

  6. I just finished reading all of your chapters, and it was absolutely riveting. I think many people have a story such as yours (I know I do), but most of us are unable to harness the perspective and the words to actually tell the tale the way that you have.

    Don't ever stop writing!

  7. I left my husband in the beginning of March and it's relieving to know that a fabulous life awaits and the loneliness doesn't last forever.

    I'm really sorry that you had to go through all that. It's so much!

    Thank you for putting it into writing. I read it straight through - kept saying, after this post I'll go to bed. You're good with the cliffhangers!

  8. firsttimereaderfirsttimecommenter8:01 PM, June 01, 2007

    wow. i am stumbled on this blog by accident, its linked to one of my friend's blog. i read the divorce/mother passing entries straight through last night. its been 5 years since my father passed of stomach cancer and reading your story and the convincing maner in which you expressed it put me right back in that hospital room - which i think periodically you have to do. I am sorry about the difficult things you went through. I hope you find what you are looking for.

  9. wow. i just read it all - and it is so cathartic for reasons i don't understand at all. thanks.

  10. i read all of these. i couldn't have found your blog at a better time in my life and i know it probably can't compare to a marriage and the bond that it creates, but i know this kind of pain now.

    it's strange when you get your heart broken for the first time. i have this weight attached to me that i've never had before, and i have no idea how to deal with it. i have always been a cold person. i have always been reserved to say the least. but now that i have all these broken pieces, i have no one that can help me put them together again. i want to run to my best friend and cry and tell him to help me get through this, but i can't; because he's the problem.

    i can't seem to stop crying. i cry thinking of the love that's now gone, how it will never come back, and i have no idea where it all went so terribly wrong.

    anyway i just wanted to thank you, because i wanted to know that there was someone else that has felt this and that they grew stronger and became better because of it, and i believe that you are better because of this, and that makes me believe that i will be too.

  11. I found your blog recently, and all these chapters resonated with me. It reminded me a lot of my divorce, and it was so good to see you come out so well on the other side. You have a beautiful voice. I'm even thinking that perhaps I should write my own story of my divorce, but I know I couldn't possibly do it as eloquently as you have.

  12. I truly enjoyed reading this story. It is well written, honest and held my interest the whole time. I wish you all of the best, and post some pics of the new place!

  13. Hi, Kristy,

    I found your blog when I was searching for blogs on divorce that were written by actual people going through it rather than lawyers trying to drum up business (because of the latter, the former are actually hard to find!)

    I've only read a few installments of your divorce story, but so far I really like it. I get the impression I'll be reading the divorce story from a different perspective than my own, i.e., the one who left. I look forward to it, though.

    I read your About page and really enjoy your sense of humor and writing style. It seems you get no shortage of praise in these comments, but I thought I'd join the party.

  14. Holy crap. So, I'm a Clever girl, and I just clicked through the latest newsletter to your blog for the first time ever, and then I read every link on this page. And all I can think is, "CRAP! How have I not been reading this girl's blog for the last five years?!"

    Anyway, hi! :)

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  16. Sorry to hear about your divorce. Sometimes, when a life-changing event like this happens, it’s best if we just pour our hearts out in writing. It’s one way of venting and finding an outlet for your thoughts and emotions.

  17. Divorce is something that we don't want to endure or even happen to us, so for you to share that and let strangers read the tell-all tale of your divorce is astonishing because not many people can do that. I, for one, don't even think that I have the guts to write it on a blog for all the world to see. I'm so proud of you! By the way, how are you doing? It's been 7 years, how are you coping? I wish you all the best in the world! :)Janay Stiles

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