Women Should Have More Men Like This On Their List
birthday stories are coming.
in fact, i'm on my way out the door to go do more to write about.
in the meantime, i thought i'd link to this. because that's what friends are for. certainly you may disagree; it's not my intention to be controversial. but since the can of worms was opened, i think this sums up my take on the matter.
El_G just says it better than i ever could.
in fact, i'm on my way out the door to go do more to write about.
in the meantime, i thought i'd link to this. because that's what friends are for. certainly you may disagree; it's not my intention to be controversial. but since the can of worms was opened, i think this sums up my take on the matter.
El_G just says it better than i ever could.
Happy Birthday Kristy!
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday!!!!!:)
ReplyDeleteHAPPY BIRTHDAY
ReplyDeletefrom a new IIF :)
(found you through craigslist and have been reading ever since)
since el gallo starts off with a quantitative analysis - I'll pose this to you all - is there any # (of either partners or one night stands) that is TOO much?
ReplyDeleteGiven his (and all your uproar) I expect the answer to be 'no'. Assuming the person (be it male or female)is being safe and happy with all decisions...REALLY? Someone with 50.. 100..169 partners and 15.. 27.. 33 one nighters - no prob for you girlz?
no, there is no number that is too much. the term "too much" simply does not work in reference to sex.
ReplyDeletetoo much food = feel sick, gain weight
too much alcohol = hangover, possible addiction
too much exercise = injury
too much sex = ????
a person can have sex ONCE and get an STD. or she can have sex 1,000 times and not get one.
she can have sex ONCE and get pregnant. she can have sex 1,000 times and not get pregnant.
quantity of sexual encounters or sex partners is meaningless. literally.
the only instance i can think of where "too much" works with sex is if a person has so much sex in a short period of time (like hours) that she gets a little raw.
how sex affects a person's self-esteem depends on the person and her perspective, her religious beliefs, the attitudes her friends and family have toward sex, her emotional makeup, AND whatever her self-esteem was BEFORE the sexual encounter.
and i forgot to add:
ReplyDeleteno, there is no number that i would consider "too much" when it comes to sex partners.
sex should always be safe and consensual. beyond that, it does not matter to me how many partners a person chooses to have.
i think it's fine for someone to have one or two partners in her whole life. i think it's fine for someone to have hundreds of partners in her life. whatever works for each individual.
thanks for a good honest answer
ReplyDeletesince el gallo starts off with a quantitative analysis - I'll pose this to you all - is there any # (of either partners or one night stands) that is TOO much?
ReplyDeleteKirin, I don't understand your question. Too much for what? For me, you could just as well be asking "Is there any such thing as too many golf balls?"
e-g,
ReplyDeleteI am asking this:
if you met a woman/man and liked her/him and then learned that they had previously slept with a HUGE number of people and had many, many one night stands..would that matter to you at all on any level? Is there some number that might make you wonder about their choices?
d.oh!!!! I don't even want to TRY counting. I'm sure it's somewhere around where you are. :) Rock on K. Happy birthday sister!!!! Get a birthday lay!!!! =)
ReplyDeleteIt's Valerie. I just don't want to log into this computer. HE might find MY blog. YIKES!!!!
Hope you have a great birthday, K (I'm sure it's still the 4th of July over there) With fireworks.
ReplyDeleteAnd I shall mope for the rest of the year that I didn't make it to your list. Well, a week, at least ...
Birthday stories awaited.
J.A.P.
happy birthday, kristy! :)
ReplyDeleteFWIW, Kristy, I had sex with 42 men before I got married at 36.
ReplyDeleteI always liked that scene in Four Weddings and A Funeral where Andie McDowell listed all her lovers.
Kirin,
ReplyDeleteNo, I would not think less of, nor be less likely to date someone who had had a "huge" number of sexual partners. I think sex is a good thing.
Happy Birthday!
ReplyDeleteI was a little weirded out about my 30th birthday but an older friend had the BEST advice for me:
get dressed up, go out for a fab dinner with your best girlfriends, get blindingly drunk on premium martinis....and the next day you'll wake up and you'll be 30! And being 30 will not even come close to being as painful as your nasty hangover ;-)
That's a lengthy legacy of lusty listy love.
ReplyDeleteHAPPY BIRTHDAY!
Anyone want a martini?
Happy belated 30th! 30 was my most liberating birthday and I hope yours is/was too!
ReplyDeleteHAPPY BIRTHDAY!
ReplyDeletesex is a good thing. is there something wrong with having lots of it with one person?
ReplyDeleteOf course there is a number that is too many. Who wants to be just a stat or be constantly compared to the entire USO when they're making love to someone? That being said, Kristy's numbers are totally fine and normal.
Gee, last anon, I'll bet she's glad she got your approval. I guess you decide what number is "fine and normal". Usually one-night stands don't care if they are a stat or not, that's what nsa is all about. Maybe many of us don't compare our partners to others when making love or just having sex. You're probably projecting your own insecurities. THAT being said, can the anon's, whom I suspect are men, and possibly the same one, get over Kristy's sex life and her choices? You're starting to sound creepy, scary, obsessive and stalkerish. Maybe if you had a "fine and normal" sex life, you wouldn't be so concerned about someone elses.
ReplyDeleteWho wants to be just a stat or be constantly compared to the entire USO when they're making love to someone?
ReplyDeleteDo you often tune completely-out during sex, and think of something other than what you and your partner are doing?
If so, maybe one of you would benefit from having sex with the entire USO. Someone might learn something that would keep your mind on the task at hand.
Anonymous said...
ReplyDeletesex is a good thing. is there something wrong with having lots of it with one person?
Nope, nothing wrong with that at all. It's your body and your life, so you should do what you're comfortable with and what makes you happy
Of course there is a number that is too many. Who wants to be just a stat or be constantly compared to the entire USO when they're making love to someone? That being said, Kristy's numbers are totally fine and normal.
Hmmm...I just don't feel that way (like a stat or constantly compared). *shrug*
I'm a day late, but I hope you had a HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
ReplyDeleteI turned 31 this year and I don't mind getting older. Sex just gets better and better every year. You can never have to much of a good thing!
I think there needs to be distinction made here regarding "too much"... I think we are looking at two different things.
ReplyDeleteThere is no way to say that there is a number of sexual partners too high for individual. As long as that person is happy and content with their number, no one else's can say that the number is too high.
It seems that what might be better discussed is what happens when one person's sexual partners exceeds what another person's comfort level is... i.e., What happens when Person A has more sex partners than Person B would feel comfortable having? Person A still has no problem with their number, but now Person B is having problems relating to Person A because they cannot understand how that number, a number they would not be uncomfortable with, poses no moral problems for Person A.
I'm 40 & my number is 13. I wish I were 30 and my number were 20!
ReplyDeleteOne of my 13 lovers said to me, "When I'm in a rocking chair at the old folks home, I would rather look back with a smile remembering the things I have done, rather than regret the things I haven't."
Of course, he probably said this because he was married.
I was the last anon. I am not a man. and i don't mean that there's a number by which people should be judged, but also those of you who say you can't judge someone on their numbers should not be so unsympathetic to those who do have a problem with high numbers. I do not want to sleep with someone who has slept with 500 women. I just don't. i don't think itmakes someone a bad person, it's just my preference. the kind of person i am does not mesh with that kind of person. and if that makes me an ahole or an anti-feminist well then so be it.
ReplyDeleteOh and it seems to me that most of the blogging going on seems to be to garner some kind of approval for one's lifestyle. Posting your sex life on the internet is not exactly discreet so I don't need sass about making a judgement on a public declaration.
the kind of person i am does not mesh with that kind of person.
ReplyDeleteI don't know about everyone else, but this is basically what I was getting at. What is good for someone else, doesn't necessarily mean that it's good for everyone.
I think you can be accepting of something in theory(like large number of sexual partners) and also realize that for some reason it doesn't match your own personal idea of what an ideal partner would be like. That alone doesn't make you a bad person or an "ahole or an anti-feminist". The problem, in my opinion, arises when you decide that everyone should think the way you do and then you attempt to shame those who prefer a different approach to their personal life.
Kiki - That was a really nice post by El G, but don't you think you owe it to him to let him know that you were making it all up? Dad
ReplyDeleteDad of Kiki,
ReplyDeleteYou are the greatest.
Sincerely,
Anonymous Admirer
Kristy, from one Kristy in the Bay Area to another, Happy Birthday! Turning 30 is fantastic and liberating. It feels so much like a fresh start, free from all the garbage (your 20's) that went before. Congratulations!
ReplyDeleteAs for the "list" -- good for you. The world would be a better place if we all lived with less shame. You make me proud, and you've taught me a lesson. And when all else fails, just BRAZEN YOUR WAY THROUGH IT.
Love,
The Other Kristy
Grandma you start out by saying everyone should shut up and mind their own business and then you go on to question K about her post and then go on to make demeaning comments about women. Who cares what you think? For all we know, you not only have a desease, you probably got it from some anonymous sex you paid $30 for!
ReplyDeleteGrandma, it appears that you are the one with the reading comprehension problem. I suggest you spend more time with your wife and stop surfing the net to comment on other peoples' sex lives. Oh, and by the way, most people who do pay for sex have wives at home.
ReplyDeleteIf you don't get it, you never will and it's not worth the effort to explain other than your original post reaks of passive aggressive insults while trying to sound like you're coming to Kristy's defense.
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