Wednesday, March 01, 2006

In My Life

even though it's a beatles' classic, the first time i ever really listened to the lyrics of this song was when i heard johnny cash sing it.

i was living with el_g, and he was listening to a whole johnny cash album, and this came on and stopped me in my tracks. i mean, by that point we (el_g and i) had been through so much together, and the song...god, it was just so raw and honest and plain and true. i started sobbing out of nowhere.

for a long time, everything between us was so hard. in fact, so much hard stuff was going on that we didn't (couldn't?) have the presence of mind to know if it was just life, or if it was actually just us making things difficult.

we figured out, eventually, that it was both life and us.



five days before their wedding, el_g's now-blushing bride said, "it's amazing to me how easy it's been with him. it's just...easy."

it makes sense, i thought. and then realized: that's what i want out of my life. in my life.

i mean, i know that love involves compromise. but the older i get, the more i think that when it's right, it's really not that hard.

and that if you wait long enough to learn yourself and know yourself and love yourself, you can find it.

and it will just be.

so they have found each other. and they, in their sometimes unorthodox and always understated way, exemplify how pure love really is.


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There are places I’ll remember
All my life
Though some have changed
Some forever not for better
Some have gone and some remain
All these places have their moments
With lovers and friends I still can recall
Some are dead and some are living
In my life I’ve loved them all

But of all these friends and lovers
There is no one compares with you
And these memories lose their meaning
When I think of love as something new
Though I know I’ll never lose affection
For people and things that went before
I know I’ll often stop and think about them
In my life I love you more

Though I know I’ll never lose affection
For people and things that went before
I know I’ll often stop and think about them
In my life I love you more
In my life I love you more

15 comments:

  1. It's one of the most beautiful songs ever written. I just attended a wedding of two close friends. They've been together for 15 years and have two teenage daughters. They've been against the institution of marriage but due to her getting breast cancer, they decided to have a non-traditional wedding for many reasons, including legal ones to take care of the kids incase anything were to happen. Their daughters sang this song at the start of the ceremony. I don't remember the last time I cried so hard.

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  2. Kristy, so is this the song you sang at the wedding? You didn't say that explicitly, but in another comment you said you would post about what you sang. Thanks!

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  3. And I agree about the easiness, or rather the ease that comes with the "right" relationship. True love is amazing :)

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  4. another pretty song is the wedding song by peter paul and mary. love is really fun and passionate.

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  5. If you sang this at the wedding - were you able to do it w/o crying?

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  6. It is the song she sang at the wedding. It made me cry then and it's making me cry now. El G and I are very lucky-- not only do we have each other, but we have K in our lives.

    And btw-- it's not true that "these memories lose their meaning". We just add to them.

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  7. Thank you for putting this into words K. I'm in one of those "easy" relationships right now and am wondering how it works or why it works. I cant answer that ewxcept to say..it works!
    Your comments are right on the button!

    Your IIF in Fresno
    PS..I'm 48, so sometimes it takes awhile to "learn yourself, know yourself and love yourself"

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  8. Awww...that was so beautiful. I love that song. And when it's right it somehow magically is easy :)

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  9. just beautiful. the post, the song. beautiful.

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  10. Beautiful, K. I think you're on to something.

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  11. This was some advice I received from a very wise woman I know:

    More often than not there is love in a marriage, but sometimes it's an easy love and sometimes it's hard. Those who have a hard love still are very much in love, but it all just flows so much better when it's easy.

    She said it much better than my paraphrase.

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  12. *sob!!!*

    damn you! i finally stopped crying and now i'm sniffling again.

    -soggy el snarkster

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  13. That was the theme song for the show Providence...very pretty.

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