Just The Way It Is
As I was making my regular Facebook rounds, I saw something that first surprised me, then just made me feel awful.
I stewed about it.
Ultimately, I decided not to post a response there. I don't know the people involved very well (and in most cases, I don't know them at all) and I have seen no good come from flame wars. Plus, it's likely that anything I could have written there would fall on deaf ears. Or worse -- that someone would have engaged me in a hateful and hurtful "debate" that would have left me feeling even angrier. And sadder.
But I can share it with you here, and you can feel what I felt and maybe you can come up with the perfect response. If there even is one.
(For context, the Original Poster (OP) is a man I went through grade school with and, quite obviously, a doctor.)
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A bad thing happened that could have happened to anyone, but a fat person is easy to point fingers at and ridicule. Fat blah blah blah lazy blah blah blah tax dollars blah blah blah Oprah blah blah blah fat.
Sometimes I just feel it's a losing battle. Yes, it's sad. But it's nothing new.
Would you have responded? What would you have said?
The thing that shocked me so much was that the people I DO know from this conversation aren't assholes. They aren't hateful, and they certainly aren't without their personal issues (because who is?). I can't understand where the vitriol comes from. I do understand their feeling like "people need to get their shit together" but that's not really what comes across here.