And Then I Cried Over The Sad Mop

After a whole lot of second- and third-guessing ourselves as to what the hell we should be doing, Ish and I are now in contract on a house we love in Napa.

We were very wishy-washy about the whole moving thing, you may have noticed, until the right house came on the market; then we knew. If all goes well -- and omg, there are a lot of things involved in financing a house, and mortgage rates are all very weird now as is the approval process and plus with fun new rules coming into effect because of the stimulus bill and you have not lived until you're getting cc'd on emails you don't understand from your realtor, mortgage broker, tax attornies from two different firms in two different states, and a CPA thrown in for good measure -- we remove contractual contingencies next Wednesday and close about two weeks after that.

Meanwhile I'm preganant and content to speak about nothing except the wondrousness of coconut popsicles.

This past Friday was also my last day at work and that's just really weird. So now I'm home and looking about 80 million projects straight in the eye and cowering. There's fun stuff I want to do, like arrange a song or two for my a cappella group. There's huge, big stuff like start the website I've been babbling about for a year. Oh, and those books I want to write. And then there's the whole "packing" thing.

I refuse to start packing, however, until we have reached the "everything is in order, here is the closing date and time" point on the house. Packing anything up before then just seems like tempting fate, and I really don't like to do that.

However. So that we don't get saddled with closing costs and mortgage payments AND extra rent, we did give notice to our landlords. And as these things happen, our apartment is being shown THIS FRIDAY. HAHAHA.

On the one hand, it's not like we're showing a place we're trying to sell. I don't care if this place gets rented -- it doesn't impact us one way or another. On the other hand, people I don't know will be traipsing through my home for the sole purpose of deciding whether or not it's the kind of place they want to live. Strangers will be wandering through the place I live and judging it, judging me, and it's hard to not care.

Especially because one small coat closet and one mid-sized clothes closet is not enough storage for two grown adults and all their earthly possessions. So while we don't even have that much stuff, the stuff we DO have is everywhere, all over every surface, because there's nowhere else for it to go.

And I know that strangers will assume we are disheveled packrats and I hate it.

Plus I'm not even being rational, but what if these strangers go into full-on snoop-and-judge mode? What if they open the kitchen cabinets and see that my pots and pans are just thrown in there, not stacked neatly (um, because how DO you neatly stack pots and pans?)? What if they open the fridge and cast disapproving glances at that salad dressing that's been there since July? WHAT IF THEY JUDGE MY POPSICLES?

The point is, it's not a big deal and I just need to suck up and deal and perhaps find a happy medium between "not packing" and "decluttering" but it just gets a little overwhelming and Oh hey, I haven't checked Twitter in 4 minutes, I wonder what's going on there!?

And please keep in mind that I am not even remotely sane these days. Between the I-don't-know-what-it-is-about-pregnancy that makes me totally, totally spacey and the hormonal roller coaster, I am a big heaping mess of a woman.


You know those Swiffer commercials? Where the woman is at the grocery store and is contemplating buying a Swiffer, and the woman working at the grocery store tells her it's a miracle product and she'll never go back to her old mop? Then her old mop appears from around the corner, looking dejected? (Yes, it looks dejected. Even though mops don't have facial features of any kind or anything, the mop looks miserable.) And then the song "Baby Come Back" plays and it's supposed to be funny?


Cried. I actually cried. At the sad mop.

You want to know why? Because the sad mop reminded me of the scene from Toy Story II where the song "When She Loved Me" comes on. It is the saddest song in the entire universe. It is about a toy a little girl gets when she's little and she loves it so much and then she gets older and little by little forgets about the toy and it winds up alone and unloved and under the girl's bed.

"When somebody loved me, everything was beautiful. Every hour we spent together lives within my heart...when she loved me."

You can bet I sobbed like a baby watching that, however many years ago. And not JUST because I felt bad for all the unloved toys in the world. But because I made the catastrophic mistake of realizing that sometimes the same thing happens to pets, that sometimes when kids get older they don't play with their dogs (note: I'm now crying as I type this, not kidding) as much. And the dogs don't understand why. Because they're just dogs and love the kids as much as they ever did -- dogs don't understand that kids have different responsibilities and priorities as they grow up. Dogs just love.


***Comment of the Day***
Why? Because it made me laugh right out loud.

Corrina said...
Harry Carey died when I was pregnant (the baseball announcer). I barely knew who he was but spent an entire week with red-rimmed eyes telling everyone that he had died. No one else cared. Poor mop. Poor Harry.


  1. That mop commercial is one of my favorites, but it makes me laugh, not cry :)

    Good luck with the packing and moving and stress of it all!

  2. OK I am hooting with laughter about the mop commercial but I am also wiping my tears about the dogs being bewildered by the lack of attention ... You've got it bad!

  3. Well since I don't have TV I haven't seen the mop commercial but... I totally cry at stuff like that! And I'm not even remotely pregnant!

    Also, I forwarded this post to my husband because so far I am on the losing end of the "can we get a dog" argument. But dogs just love! What's wrong with love?!?!

  4. That commercial makes me sad, too. What makes me SADDER, though, is Toy Story 2. Oh. My. God. It made me add toy movies to my list of things not to see because I get too upset, including currently, toy movies, animal movies, and movies about Nazis.

  5. Oh thanks a bunch, now I'm thinking about sad dogs, and I'm a little teary and I'm not even pregnant!

  6. I'm not even pregnant, but that darned mop commercial makes me cry. I hate abandonment, even if an inanimate object is the one being abandoned.

  7. OH yeah.
    When a friend of mine was pregnant, I vividly remember watching TV with her when a dog food commercial came on. The commercial follows the life of the dog from puppyhood (Puppy Food!) while running beside its young owner, to adulthood (ah, Senior Food) with the dog's now full-grown-woman owner. The older dog now has some gray on his face and isn't moving as quickly as he was as a puppy.
    And my friend is crying. BAWLING. Because? "OH! The doggy got OLD!"
    So funny. So sad. Pregnancy does funny things to people...

  8. You're the best.
    I don't know the mop commercial but I totally know what you mean. It's like throwing away some old tv or chair. It's just sad.
    And I always feel sort of bad for things I throw away. It's not their fault I suddenly need a new tv....

  9. Worse still, what if they TAKE your popsicles?

  10. I think the only thing that can make anyone feel better about the sad mop is another popsicle.

    It's the only solution.

  11. I know what you mean re: mortgage and packing. Just today I finally signed the closing papers on a flat that we bid on 3 months and 3 mortgage lenders ago. Everyday the big questions were: which banks are still standing today? What does that mean for our mortgage? Yeah, fun. I've been living for months with stuff half packed.

    Well let's hope your process is much smoother.

    Good luck!

  12. Thanks for making me cry about my dog.


    (I kid! I kid! Nothing but love, and tears, over here).

  13. I think that mop commercial is sad too. We can all relate to rejected love, and if you're in the mood to cry already, it can be pretty sad.

  14. Harry Carey died when I was pregnant (the baseball announcer). I barely knew who he was but spent an entire week with red-rimmed eyes telling everyone that he had died. No one else cared. Poor mop. Poor Harry.

  15. It is like The Velveteen Rabbit! That always made me so sad as a child.

  16. That song in TS2 always makes me cry the ugly cry. I got teary just reading this post, and I don't have pregnancy as an excuse!

  17. Oh, my god, the Velveteen Rabbit got mentioned. First off, the mop commercial has always pulled at my heartstrings (I am the person who did not throw away old socks for a year, even if they had holes in them, because I felt bad for them. NOT EVEN KIDDING). Also, I was at my brother's house the other day and I read my nephew the little kid board book version of the Velveteen Rabbit and just bawled. Poor kid was so confused. He's 2.

  18. Um, HELLO. Mops TOTALLY have feelings. It's like how I have to make sure to use all the forks equally often, so that none of them feel lonely. Also, if I wear my brown shoes too frequently, the black ones are SO SAD.


  19. Have you seen the Preggo Shuffle Rap?? Guaranteed to make you smile... in horror... I had to post it today.

    Here it is on youtube:

  20. Delurking to say I've been crying for other reasons this week, but your mop gave those tears some extra legitimacy. And now I miss my dog, so more tears. But thanks.

  21. I bawled like a baby when I hit a moose with my car in Alaska. And not because of the damage to the car or because I was shaken up or anything. No. It was because the moose's siblings or friends were just a few feet when it happened and they kept standing there and I could hear them whining in the way that moose do. They were confused and scared and didn't understand. And then the trooper came out and had to shoot the moose in the road. And the siblings cried some more. And it ripped my heart in two. Just thinking about it now is making me go all teary again - and it was 3 years ago!


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