Tuesday, December 09, 2008

"Promise Me"


Because we do not have a Chuck.

A few months ago I hosted a very small, very intimate dinner for an out-of-town guest that illustrates a lot about my life: I got a little worried about what to serve (I have not quite advanced to the level of "dinner party"), so I busted out our nicest dinnerware and made the table very pretty...and then we ate do-it-yourself tacos with ingredients my guests brought from a local Mexican place. We drank a lot of margaritas. Then, after dinner, properly fueled with laughter and tequila, we decided to play the cheesy Comcast On-Demand karaoke. We spent a good two hours singing emphatically to horrible, horrible renditions of songs that weren't that good to begin with.

It was silly and casual and fun and everyone had a good time.

The following week, my friend and I were IMing about our lives, and marriage, and the future, and that seemingly inevitable "having kids" thing. And she said to me:

"Promise me that no matter what, we'll always get drunk and sing at the TV."

There are lots of things that I cannot predict. Fate has thrown some pretty fucking horrible curve balls at me (and some pretty gloriously wonderful ones, too). I have learned maybe too many humbling things, including not to make promises I can't keep.

But dearest friends, invisible and otherwise, please know that no matter what, no matter if it's tequila or bourbon or wine or just love and friendship I'm drinking in, no matter if it's songs or words or blogs or musicals or dramas or home videos that are flickering on the ever-changing screen, no matter what, I do promise.

I promise that we -- you, me, Ish, all of us here at this blog, and even this little peanut --




-- we will always get drunk and sing at the TV.



P.S. The cats would have no part of posing for this photo.


Sherlock tries to rub his head against the stick.


Leon allows the stick to rest on his head, but he does not like it.

108 comments:

  1. What wonderful news! Congratulations.

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  2. NO WAY!!!!!

    WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Congratulations! What an amazing year for all of you!

    xo, laurie

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  3. Congratulations! What wonderful news.
    I will indeed drink with you, and everyone else, often! And I sing at the TV, and the computer, and the steering wheel, all the time.

    If you get a chance to pop on my ustream channel on Saturday at 8pm est or so, I'll be doing a 4 wine blind tasting, and I'll surely toast to you during it if you're there to remind me :) http://tinyurl.com/myustream

    Matt

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  4. AHHH!!!
    AWESOME NEWS!!
    CONGRATS!!
    As a mom of 4... I still get drunk and sing at the TV!
    I loved this post... what a GREAT WAY to share the news!!
    xoxo,
    Audrey

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  5. It's a good thing I'm sitting at the computer in an empty house. I just hollered. LOUDLY.

    CONGRATULATIONS!!! So, so very happy for you. First JC Penney tables and NOW THIS! ;)

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  6. Congratulations! I'll happily raise a toast or two to you and the family until you're in a condition to do it yourself again. :)

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  7. That is pretty huge! Congrats!

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  8. YEY!! Congratulations!! Will open the wine early tonight in your honor:)

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  9. Congratulations! May you and Ish and the peanut have a very happy life. Babies are so exciting and fun.
    (And more, but I won't go into the negatives now. It's time to celebrate!)

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  10. wow! exciting news! I'm happy to know that no baby will change you.

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  11. Wait. Your cat's pregnant? Well, congratulations I hope you guys have a healthy litter. :)

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  12. Woooo hoooooo!!! Congratulations, Kristy! So happy for you. And love your promise--I think I might have to work something similar into my vows (I just got engaged! ;) Hope to see you again next time I'm in the Bay Area, which might be February...keep in touch. xo Melissa

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  13. Yeah Yeah Yeah for you and Ish! Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!

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  14. Congratulations! Just hold off on the getting drunk until after the baby's born. And then, trust me, you're going to NEED to get drunk and sing at the TV from time to time.

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  15. Congratulations!

    Is your friend going to be bummed that you can't drink AND sing at the TV at the same time for another 9 months?

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  16. Congratulations! Many good wishes!

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  17. I KNEW IT!!!!!!!! Congratulations! I knew not because you and Ish are getting married, but because of little things you had said on Twitter. I am so very happy for you! Best wishes for a healthy pregnancy and baby, and lots of love!

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  18. congrats! so exciting!

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  19. omg! omg!!!! congrats!!!

    and I can't believe you put a pee stick on ish's nose.

    (he's a keeper!)

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  20. That's some dedication to your job that you'd get knocked up just to test out the childcare services at the annual conference ;)

    Seriously though, I'm so very happy for you all. CONGRATULATIONS! (Shouting so you can be sure to hear me from Oakland).

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  21. WEEEE!! Congrats to you and Ish!!!

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  22. Blessings to you all!!! So happy :)

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  23. So if I go to blogher I can have your drink tickets right?

    :-D

    Congrats, my dear.

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  24. Ooooh - pee stick on everyone!

    Congrats! This should be a fun Holiday!

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  25. So much love to you guys! I'm thrilled for you both.

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  26. Congratulations! And my word verification is matept - which in my mind equals mate + pregnant!

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  27. Oh my!! Amazing news! I am so happy for y'all and congratulations from the bottom of my heart!

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  28. Shiree in Salt Lake City12:40 PM, December 11, 2008

    How wonderful for you and Ish - Congratulations!!!

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  29. woohoo!

    I'd write something else, but that seems to cover it.

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  30. Two words: Mommy Blog!!!

    Congrats!

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  31. Yayayay! Congratulations, Kristy, that is SUCH wonderful news!

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  32. So, so happy for the best parents-to-be I know.
    Congratulations, you guys!

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  33. WOW!

    Congratulations and happy dancing. :-)

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  34. I guess I'll have to bring sparkling cider to your party instead of Strawberry Hill.

    Congrats! I love being gay Uncle Jester!

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  35. Congratulations, I am thrilled for you both!

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  36. Congratulations from all of us at Tiny Prints!

    I heard the big news through Twitter

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  37. Woo! Congrats on the big news. 1st Engagement and now pregnancy. It's been an eventful year. Happy holidays to you and Ish.

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  38. Aw, it brought tears to my eyes! No more tequila for you, leave that to me. And Ish can still have his wine. Congratulations to you both!

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  39. My first baby was Peanut the whole nine months. Congrats!

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  40. i must say it's very brave to put the pee stick on his face :-)

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  41. I am so EXCITED for you!! What a great post! Huge congrats and warmest wishes, Kristy!

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  42. Oh holy cow!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!

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  43. CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!! WONDERFUL NEWS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  44. omgomgomg!!! congratulations!!! heh... we're gonna be due around the same time even!! hah..

    i'm SUCH a nerd, but i think that's cool

    -lurker

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  45. Awesome! Congrats!

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  46. DUDE. Freaking congratulations!

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  47. I very nearly fell out of my chair just now! CONGRATS!!!!!!

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  48. OH MY GOSH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    kristy i am so happy for you!! i know you don't really know me and i don't know you, but i am truly thrilled for you. your home, your cats, your friends and family, ish, and now this :) the goodness of this world is abounding in you :)
    congratulations my internet friend!

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  49. Congratulations! I could not be more thrilled for you and Ish. You'll definitely drink and sing at the TV, you'll just appreciate it more.

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  50. Man, this IIF is over the moon for you.
    By the way, this won't revoke your invitation to my imaginary dinner table. We'll set a high chair if need be. And room for Ish, who can watch the baby.
    One more thing... a wise woman told me, when I announced my own Peanut almost four years ago: "You think you know what love is? Just you wait."
    Just you wait, Kristy.
    (And please, take your vitamins...)

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  51. Yay! I've read you for a long time but never commented. There must be something in the blogging air: I'm knocked up too, after two years of trying without results. So, congrats!

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  52. Congrats again and again.

    Is it bad that the first thing I thought when I saw Ish with the pregnancy test balanced on his nose was "I wonder if he smells pee"? If it is, I'm sorry about that.

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  54. Congrats! I've been lurking for a while around - but just wanted to come out of the corner for a big Hurrah!

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  55. Congratulations!! This blog is like the gift that keeps on giving - thank you for filling our spirits with all this good news. I can't believe we are lucky enough to have so much to look forward to! And bytheway, my obstetrician condoned (and advocated for) a glass of red wine every now and then.

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  56. What fantastic news, not to mention a great Christmas present!!! Congratulations!

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  57. Congratulations! What fabulous news :)

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  58. WOW. Your life will never be the same! Mostly, for good. :)

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  59. A hundred thousand congratulations!

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  60. As a bajillion people have already said, CONGRATULATIONS!!

    Such exciting news!

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  61. Well, my comment is so far down the list that I'm sure no one will read it. I didn't have much to add that hasn't been posted here anyhow. You are in for a ride.

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  62. What they said. :)
    Congrats to you both--how exciting!

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  63. I have big fat tears in my eyes, congratulations!

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  64. No way! Yay! Yay! Yay! Congrats you guys.

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  65. Congratulations to you and Ish!

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  66. So happy for you both--congratulations!

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  67. oh my gosh, congratulations!!!!! so exciting!

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  68. This is so freakin awesome!! I couldn't be happier for you! I don't know you but I wish I could hug you!

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  69. Congratulations, invisible internet friend! I'm so happy for you.

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  70. CONGRATULATIONS!! What wonderful news!!

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  71. AAAHHH!!! Congratulations Kristy!! :)

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  72. Holy crap!! Congratulations! I've been lurking here for about a year or so...read with much interest (and tears) the story of your divorce and your brave move to San Fran (ALWAYS my number one on the List of Cities to Escape To). So congratulations! And yay for you and yay for Ish. Life can throw you some pretty awesome curveballs when it wants to.

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  73. Wow!! Congratulations. And for the record. I love that you showed a stick you peed on to the entire world.

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  74. OMFG! Congratulations!!!

    For the record Ish is way cuter than Chuck :)

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  75. Awesome!! :)

    The pictures made me think of part of a punch line to a joke and now it's stuck..

    "Just take that thing you play with and put it where you pee."

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  76. Congratulations Kristy! I'm so happy that your life is turning into what you want WHEN you want it. I wish you and Ish the very best and I hope you have a happy and wonderful pregnancy. Your supporters will be here for you in all your pregnancy ups and downs. We love you.

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  77. Congrats! I'm teary at work!

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  78. Holy hopping snot!

    When each of our girls were born we bought a bottle of port (you could also do an amazing Bordeaux) to open on their 21st birthdays. Just a thought...

    I am so happy for you, Kristy, my IIF.

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  79. I laughed right out loud when I saw the photo captioned "because we do not have a Chuck" - I knew exactly what you meant!!

    Congratulations to you!!!

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  80. omg!!! i'm all goosepimply!!!
    Congratulations to all of you!
    xo

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  81. I never cry. I especially never cry over the blogs of people I don't know. But here I am. *sniff*

    Congratulations. I am so happy for you both (all).

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  82. OH MY GOD HOORAY HOORAY HOORAY!!!

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  83. Wow wow wow! I have been reading for a long time and I am simply overjoyed for the two of you. Sweet!

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  84. Congratulations! So very happy for you two - an absolute blessing!

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