Hope: 1 Experience: 0
Because my blog post title is a Tweet you thought of and haven't posted yet.
Because the first time you kissed me, my stomach flipped.
Because you drive a Subaru.
Because you know all the words to all the songs I grew up singing, even though they're the songs our grandparents grew up singing.
Because you sing with me, and harmonize beautifully.
Because you always jump to the same harmony I do.
Because we finish each other's...sandwiches.
Because the day we collaborated on that spec script was one of the most exciting of my life.
Because you took me to Paris.
Because you love that Charlie calls you Uncle Ish.
Because you buy too much wine, and make a killer martini.
Because you read more political blogs than I do.
Because you always beat me at trivia.
Because you have taken the time to try and figure out who you are and what you want, because "almost" wasn't good enough.
Because your bravery in pursuing stand-up awes me, has always awed me.
Because you and I are the worst negotiators ever, and have our collective four cats to prove it.
Because you are good and kind and handsome and smart and loving and caring and thoughtful and you make me laugh every day.
Because you are my part-mer.
And maybe because three times is the charm.
But mostly because this is how it should be, should feel. Because you make me so happy, because you make my life more fun and exciting than it's ever been. Because the thought of a life with you does not worry or frighten me, but fills me with joy and hope and outright glee. Because I know I am loved so very much in return.
Because of all of this,
because I want yours to be the face I see first thing each morning and last at night for as long as we have days,
because of so much more I cannot put into words,
I just answered Yes, I will marry you.
Because of course, yes, of course, I will.
Because the first time you kissed me, my stomach flipped.
Because you drive a Subaru.
Because you know all the words to all the songs I grew up singing, even though they're the songs our grandparents grew up singing.
Because you sing with me, and harmonize beautifully.
Because you always jump to the same harmony I do.
Because we finish each other's...sandwiches.
Because the day we collaborated on that spec script was one of the most exciting of my life.
Because you took me to Paris.
Because you love that Charlie calls you Uncle Ish.
Because you buy too much wine, and make a killer martini.
Because you read more political blogs than I do.
Because you always beat me at trivia.
Because you have taken the time to try and figure out who you are and what you want, because "almost" wasn't good enough.
Because your bravery in pursuing stand-up awes me, has always awed me.
Because you and I are the worst negotiators ever, and have our collective four cats to prove it.
Because you are good and kind and handsome and smart and loving and caring and thoughtful and you make me laugh every day.
Because you are my part-mer.
And maybe because three times is the charm.
But mostly because this is how it should be, should feel. Because you make me so happy, because you make my life more fun and exciting than it's ever been. Because the thought of a life with you does not worry or frighten me, but fills me with joy and hope and outright glee. Because I know I am loved so very much in return.
Because of all of this,
because I want yours to be the face I see first thing each morning and last at night for as long as we have days,
because of so much more I cannot put into words,
I just answered Yes, I will marry you.
Because of course, yes, of course, I will.
congrats, Kristy! I know we don't know each other, but reading your blog makes me feel like I know you, and I am so glad you've found someone who makes you so happy.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Bethany! And also, I took a picture at BlogHer Boston for you! The bar at the hotel had a perfect use of unnecessary quotations! I just have to get it from my phone, which is always a feat...
ReplyDeletehooray for you--I feel a little weird being so excited to read such an intimate post of someone I don't know.
ReplyDeleteI'm doing the happy dance for you both!
ReplyDeleteThat's how it should be, everything you wrote. I'm so glad you found that in each other. :-)
whoop! Congratulations! Beautiful post. :)
ReplyDelete(I can't remember if I've commented on your blog before, but if not, HI! :P)
long-time listener, first time caller: CONGRATS! i have a tear. this is so sweet.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Kristy!! I'm so happy for the two of you :)
ReplyDeleteCongrats to both of you!!
ReplyDeleteYour words fill me with hope for my own future.
I am so happy for you and Ish.
ReplyDeleteI could see where this post was going and had to scroll down to the end quickly - couldn't contain my excitement. Wow. Way to make my day. I'm over the moon for you both.
You give me hope.
Yeah! Yeah! Yeah! I have been waiting for this moments for a while...thought it would happen in Paris. I am so happy for you. I know your dreams are coming true.
ReplyDeletecongratulations!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!!!
ReplyDeleteYour post totally made me cry.
I'm such a girl.
This makes me so very happy!
ReplyDeleteYay! Congratulations to you both!
ReplyDeleteBeautiful post. Just beautiful. Congratulations to the both of you -- I've been following you two for years.
ReplyDelete*sniffle*
Yip-yippee HOORAY!!! So happy for you!! It sounds like you said yes for all the right reasons!!
ReplyDeleteI've never commented before but I love your blog and congratulations!
ReplyDeleteohhh... you made me cry with this one! what a lovely post.
ReplyDeleteand congratulations to you both (apparently, i have to use twitter AND your blog to say that!).
yaaay!
Awesome. I've been reading your blog since you all started dating. Congrats.
ReplyDeletew00t!
ReplyDeleteJust. so. excited. for both of you. Congratulations and a million hugs and a few tears.
ReplyDeleteCongrats, Kristy! So happy you are happy. And just think, after the BlogHer Conferences, whipping up a wedding ain't no big thang!
ReplyDeleteCONGRATULATIONS! I've been reading your blog for years...way before you met Ish. So so happy for you both!! Glad you two are making it official. :o)
ReplyDeleteAgain, congrats!! I love the post, it is beautiful.
ReplyDeleteA big sap? Perhaps. Even so, I wish for you this...
ReplyDelete... that you'll begin and end every single day with a deep, meaningful kiss that reminds you both how much you dig each other.
... that you'll save the best of yourselves for each other and let the rest of the world take you however you manage to show up.
... that the asset you tend to most often and with the most care is your family, however you come to define it.
... and that as, your relationship grows and changes, you'll never forget how you felt the day you said "Yes, I will marry you."
I wish I knew you because it's pretty ridiculous to be this happy for someone I've never met.
Yay you.
Congratulations! We briefly spoke at BlogherDC, so I really don't know you beyond what you write here and I'm still so excited for you. I wish you both much more of what seems to be a wonderfully loving relationship. Can't wait to see what you write as an old married lady.
ReplyDeleteHey, congrats!
ReplyDeleteCONGRATS! (Lots of shrieking and yelling like a girl). It is a beautiful post. I wish you both a lovely engagement.
ReplyDeletehoorah! i'm so happy for you both, even though you're still technically imaginary to me.
ReplyDelete:-)
Wow. Congrats, I got goose bumps reading your post.
ReplyDeleteWoah, I didn't see that coming. Not one bit. Congratulations!! And thanks for a lovely reminder of some of the reasons I still love and adore the guy I said my "I dos" to.
ReplyDeleteDelurking to say I'm so happy for you both. Being married to your best friend is awesome. Congratulations!
ReplyDeleteYAY Kristy!
ReplyDeleteI hope you and Ish are as happy as Mr. Dizzy and I have been for the past 22 years and counting (and it just keeps getting better every day).
Congratulations! I am so very excited for you both.
ReplyDeletecongrats congrats congrats!
ReplyDeleteWith the right person, marriage is the best thing ever and worth trying for again and again.
Patriarchyyyyyyyyyyyyyy, damn it.
ReplyDeleteBut, congratulations to you both. Seriously.
Congrats Kristy and Ish!
ReplyDeleteI am so happy for you both! Congrats.
ReplyDeleteLike a few others, I've been reading your blog for years (pre-Ish as well), but have never commented. However, this post cannot go by without a comment- I am so happy and thrilled for you! Thanks for sharing your life, your journey, and your happiness. =) CONGRATS!!!!
ReplyDeleteHooray!!! I'm so excited for you both!
ReplyDeleteI read your divorce story many months ago when I first started reading here, and you really inspired me with your strength. I'm so happy that things have been getting better and better for you over the years, and this is the cherry on top. Congratulations!!!
I thought this post might be leading to that - congratulations!! I've never met either of you but wow - I'm so happy for you!
ReplyDeleteThe hope and experience you have and share are a constant genuine inspiration...and one reason why I still have hope after crushing experiences...
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing a moment that I know you're enjoying so much. xo, l
EEK! That's sensational news! Congratulations!
ReplyDeletecongrats
ReplyDeleteFilled with joy for you both! You are family and you are a friend to strangers like me, and I bet there are lots of us, dotted all over the country, jumping and squealing and wishing we could scoop you both up in a big hug. It is such delicious news!
ReplyDeleteI've only commented once before (a week or so ago), but I had to say it:
ReplyDeleteCONGRATULATIONS!
I hope that the future exceeds your expectations and each "because" becomes more and more fulfilling every day of your life.
I am so very happy for you! I read your blog often, but don't comment very much.. but you should know that I couldn't be more excited for someone even if I did know them! Congratulations!
ReplyDeleteawwww!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations! I told Mr. Sassymonkey and he says congrats as well!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations! I'm all weepy and happy for you!
ReplyDeleteHappy happy joy joy! I think I've been waiting for this more than you!
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful post, made me tear up!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!
YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteAnother imaginary friend you don't know chiming in with congrats!
'nilla
That is truly heart-warming news. Congratulations!
ReplyDeleteI am so happy for you! I haven't been reading here long, but in these few months I have grown to admire and respect you. You have made me cry, laugh, and smile. And just now, I thrust my arms in the air and cheered for you.
ReplyDeleteBest wishes to you both.
The first thing that cam to mind was, "HOLY CRAP!"
ReplyDeleteAnd that's in a good way! I know you will be, as you now are, very happy together.
Congratulations!
Woohoo! Congrats Kristi!
ReplyDeleteKnowing that there is happiness in this world makes me happy! Love is precious, and I'm glad that you've found it.
Oh, yay!! Congratulations!! That gives me hope, too, :) How exciting!
ReplyDeleteAwesome. Congrats to you both.
ReplyDeleteOMG! Congratulations!!! That's amazing!
ReplyDeleteWell, holy shit!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!
Congrats kristy and Ish! What exciting news...
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!!
ReplyDeleteAwwwwwww, CONGRATULATIONS! I'm weeping into my coffee, lady!
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!
WOOOO!!!!
ReplyDeleteYay, you guys!!!
Be happiest!
Yay1 Congrats!
ReplyDeletei am thrilled for you both.
ReplyDeletebe excellent to each other.
congrats!!
Hurray!
ReplyDeleteYippee!!!!!!!!!!! So very happy for you!
ReplyDeleteAs with many others, this is my first comment, but I couldn't go without sharing how happy I am for you and Ish! Your post was so beautiful and successful at conveying a small part of your feelings. I got goose bumps and teary eyed. Wishing you all the joy of loving and being loved.
ReplyDeleteAHHHHHHHHHH SQUEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteI'm at a complete loss of words...all I can do is squeal. Seriously. OMG you guys totally rock and yeah YAY! Congratulations.
This is the best post I've every read! Thank you for sharing it with us. I'm so happy for both of you.
ReplyDeleteI hope that one day I find someone who will finish my sandwiches.
(((Big Hugs)))
Oh my goodness!! I'm so happy for y'all!! Congratulations to you both!!
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness!! I couldn't skip to the end because I knew where this was going and its SO SO EXCITING. Congratulations, from this perfect stranger who has admired you for years. You deserve this happiness - cant wait to hear all about it :)
ReplyDeleteYAY!!!!!
ReplyDeletehugs
Congrats!
ReplyDeletePlease make sure this is the person you want to drive crazy the rest of your life.
Did you just hear me screaming as I read this?!?!
ReplyDeleteCONGRATULATIONS! I wish you every happiness! Oh! I need to take you out for a celebratory drink or three!
Congrats! That's wonderful news.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!!!
ReplyDeleteSo happy for you and Ish.
Couldn't happen to two nicer, cleverer, wittier, funnier people.
Kismet.
Congratulations! I'm so happy for you both! I, like someone else said, feel silly for being this excited and happy for someone I don't know... but I am and I don't care!
ReplyDeleteCongrats - I did not see that coming at all! So nice.
ReplyDeleteI didn't see that one coming either. I kinda thought you would end with "That's why I'll continue to wait until the time is right." like some of your previous posts have. The excited gasp that came out of my mouth when I got to the end woke the cat. And yes, I found it a little silly that I was crying tears of joy for an IIF. But whatever...yay! So...details, details! You can't leave us hanging! What kind of amazing scenario did your good and kind and handsome and smart and loving and caring and thoughtful FIANCE cook up for the occasion?
ReplyDeletecongrats! what a wonderful surprise!
ReplyDeleteOH MY GOD ! I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!
ReplyDeleteCONGRATULATIONS !!! *JUMPING UP AND DOWN* We've never met...but like so many of the women who read your blog - we have many traits in common (breezy elegance included) and you always make me smile and give me hope...and now this !!!!! YAY FOR YOU BOTH. You are amazing, and deserve the best...and you have it in each other I do believe.
OMG, this is the GREATEST NEWS. How WONDERFUL!! If there was ever anyone who deserved to be loved and happy after all they've been through, it's you and Ish. :)
ReplyDeleteI'm thrilled for you both, and so appreciative that you've shared your joy here with us your readers. I hope we do meet in person some day so I can tell you as much again.
Congratulations to a beautiful, deserving and wonderful couple. :)
omigooodness!!! im sooo happy for you!! i've read your blogs since the beginning of the summer and i;ve always thought you were a great person! so funny and smart! im so happy! i hope everything goes perfectly!
ReplyDeleteI almost audibly starting screaming OMGOMGOMG! YAY! THIS IS THE BEST!
ReplyDeleteyou know the blogosphere of invisible sex in the city watching friends has been WAITING for this, right?
ReplyDeletemany congrats and happy wishes!
Goosebumps, that was so beautiful. Though we've never met, congratulations to you both!
ReplyDeleteAfter 24 years of marriage I can still tick off more than 80% of the items in your list regarding my beloved. I think that means I made a good decision. I also think, from my perspective, that you have, as well. Many, many gloriously happy wishes for a long and loving and wonderful future together!
ReplyDeleteyaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay.
ReplyDeleteyou guys rock.
now give us the story of the engagement!!!!!
this is just the most beautiful thing. I'm so happy for you!! Congratulations and best of everything to you both!!!
ReplyDeleteIn a side note, this is SOOOO much better than my "yes, I will marry you"... my exact words were "DUH!!!"
Ack! Congratulations! So excited for you!!
ReplyDeleteA big congrats to both of you!! Yay!!
ReplyDeleteWonderfully sweet post, too :)
AHHH! Congratulations, Kristy.
ReplyDeleteThat's lovely. Congratulations. (I just got married a few weeks ago, and I highly recommend it.)
ReplyDeleteI just teared up. SO HAPPY FOR YOU BOTH....I cannot wait to keep reading about your future together :)
ReplyDeleteI definitely just teared up.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!! I'm so, so happy for you!
O!M!G! Congratulations. I am crying!!! You deserve it!
ReplyDeleteWonderful! HE sounds like what a partner should be- not perfect, but perfect for you.
ReplyDeleteMany blessings on your life together.
Congrats to you both....
ReplyDeleteOhmigod!!!!!
ReplyDeleteSo excited for you! Yay!Yay!Yay!
Looooong time reader from the beginning. Big fan. Thrilled for your happiness!
CONGRATULATIONS!
So wonderful for both of you! Congratulations!
ReplyDeleteYAY!
ReplyDeleteHope he didn't get any oil stains on his pants.
OMG!! Congratulations! That is fabulous news. I'd wish you joy, love, happiness and adventure - but it's obvious you've already found all that!
ReplyDeleteInstead, let me wish you many, many, many continued blessings and beautiful days.
Thanks for sharing your journey with us!
oh wow congrats what a sweet post :)
ReplyDeleteWoo-Hoo! Open up the champers Kristy, I raise my glass to you!
ReplyDeleteWOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOW! Congratulations, that is BEAUTIFUL!! Yayayayaya I'm so happy for you and Ish!
ReplyDeleteI am SOO excited for you!! Congrats!
ReplyDeleteMaybe you should have another meet and greet for all your blog readers so we can toast!
Wonderful news! Congratulations!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations. I don't know either of you but you sound like you're good for each other. And you are friends. Believe me, that counts for a lot!
ReplyDeleteA thousand congrats! :)
ReplyDeleteYay! I knew it would happen soon, I could just tell :)
ReplyDeletecongratulations!!!! i've never been so excited for someone i don't actually know.
ReplyDeleteit reminded me of my own engagement - about half way in, i was like oh my god, is this it? is this really happening? and then i raced through to the end. congratulations!!!!
I am so happy for you... I really don't know how it would feel to have so many people that you don't know silently rooting on your relationship... but that was me cheering from the Internet sidelines. Way to go, score one for happy!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!!
ReplyDeleteLet me be the 120th person to congratulate you (because 119 just isn't enough.)
ReplyDeleteI wish you and Ish many years of love and happiness. Great post.
OMG CONGRATULATIONS!!!! if I were not at work and my boss were not under investigation and we were not all supposed to be somber, I would be screaming at the TOP of my lungs, WOOO HOOOOOOO!!!!!
ReplyDeletef.
Yay!! Love found via CL. Who would have thought it. I wish you and Ish many years of happiness together.
ReplyDeleteCheers!
Oh, Kristy! So very happy for the both of you! You deserve all the love he gives to you, and all the happiness you have found together.
ReplyDeleteI just married my Lobster last Sunday after a four-year courtship. We are over the moon and can't wait for the adventures life brings us together. I wish you and Ish a lifetime full of lovely adventures, great and small!
I just want to say congrats! I have been reading your blog for years now. You have a wonderful way of writing that makes me feel like I'm not the only crazy awkward person in this world!
ReplyDeleteI have laughed so loud that I've burst into tears reading some of your more funny posts (Fireman Ass, Birthday Butt, etc.). I think it's because I can totally relate (...I fall....It's what I do best...)
I'm very happy for you and want to thank you for entertaining me and making me feel like I'm not the only clutzy gal in this crazy world.!
Such wonderful news!!!! Congratulations!
ReplyDeleteOh congratulations. And what an amazing, beautifully written post. I'm all teary eyed.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations, I'm very happy for you!
ReplyDelete'Bout damn time!
ReplyDeleteCongrats, congrats, congrats!!!!
Cutie
OMG, you just made me cry. Congratulations! Am so happy for you.
ReplyDeleteYay!!!
ReplyDeleteWell said, well done. I am so happy for the two of you. Enjoy the best of all that life has to offer. I am just tickled pink for you - Vicki
ReplyDeleteOhh and because he speaks Chinese and plays Trombone and Guitar, and loves your little sister! :) XOXO
ReplyDeleteYAY!
ReplyDeleteCONGRATULATIONS! A lifetime of happiness, to every day being celebrated with each other.
ReplyDeleteBest wishes.
Congratulations to you and Ish! Excited for you and sending much love and happiness your way.
ReplyDeleteYAY! I don't know you, but I love your blog. I got goose bumps and went "aww!" when I read this post. Congrats!
ReplyDeleteOh Kiki!!!
ReplyDeleteYou probably don't remember me....it's Shawndra, from Santa Rosa..although I'm living in Oregon now.
Congratulations sweetheart...I'm so very happy for you and Ish!
You always have such beautiful words. I miss chatting with you.
*much love*
Shawndra
is it weird to cry while reading a strangers blog post? CONGRATULATIONS!
ReplyDeleteSorry I'm just now commenting, but, WOO-HOO! Holla at both you and Ish. I couldn't be happier for you two and wish you all the laughs in the world. Yippie!
ReplyDeleteLove you darling...you deserve it!
Congratulations to you both! The collective 3rd time will most surely be the charm.
ReplyDeleteSimply wonderful!
*totally teared up*
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing this moment with us in such a beautiful way. Congratulations to both of you. May your marriage be blessed!
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
ReplyDeleteI am so happy for both of you and wish you many happy years together.
What a fabulous post.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations to you both!
Your viewing audience is thoroughly excited for you and cannot wait to hear all about your future journey together, as we have followed your past and your present.
YAY!
Holy frickin cow poop!
ReplyDeleteCONGRATULATIONS~
I don't know you except for reading your words every posting....but so HAPPY for you!
congratulations kristy!!!!!
ReplyDeleteanother reader who doesn't know you here, who got very excited as she read all the great things about ish culmunating in that last sentance!! :) yay!
happy for you!
What an amazing feeling. My kids are trying to understand why their nutjob of a mom is crying over someone - whom. I. have. never. met. - getting engaged. You & Ish have a hysterical life ahead of you, and I'm so happy!
ReplyDeleteYayyy! Kristy! Yaaaay!
ReplyDeleteyay! I am totally happy-crying for you RIGHT NOW. You can prolly hear me sniffling over the cube wall ;)
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness! I don't even know you in real life and I just gasped out loud. I'm so incredibly happy for you - many wishes for a happy, healthy and long partnership.
ReplyDeleteYay, congratulations to the both of you! Here's to hope. :)
ReplyDeleteThis post had (like so many of yours) me bawling like a baby.
ReplyDeleteI am so happy for you both!
I have been following your blog ever since the "yes, this is my ass" post a couple years ago. I am SO happy for you, my iif!
ReplyDeleteSoooo Happy for you both - congratulations!!! Fantastic post! Wheeee Hooooo!
ReplyDeleteHooray for you and Ish! So incredibly happy for you both.
ReplyDeleteYAY! CONGRATS! So happy for you two!
ReplyDeleteI haven't had a smile this big in quite some time. Loving this for you. All the best, my dear, to the fabulous you I know and the Ish I cannot wait to meet.
ReplyDeleteFantastic! Congratulations to you and Ish!
ReplyDelete(Is it okay that I'm not surprised? Definitely touched by your eloquent announcement, though.)
Yay!
Congratulations!!! I am so happy for you!
ReplyDeleteOH MY FREAKIN GAWD! I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU!
ReplyDelete(I can't believe I just teared up...ok, yes I can! LOL)
I'm not exactly an IIF (nor am I a RL one)...but I wanted to congratulate you, too, Kiki.
ReplyDeleteI know it's been a long road for you. I was there on a teeny, tiny part of it, and I've been following sporadically since.
Anyway, I'm happy for you both.
Your life is really coming together and it's been a pleasure to watch.
Again, congratulations! Yay!
P.S. Isn't it amazing the difference *compatibility* makes?!
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That's beautiful, Kristy. Love this post. Many excellent reasons to get married. :)
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