Saturday, October 18, 2008

Hope: 1 Experience: 0

Because my blog post title is a Tweet you thought of and haven't posted yet.

Because the first time you kissed me, my stomach flipped.

Because you drive a Subaru.

Because you know all the words to all the songs I grew up singing, even though they're the songs our grandparents grew up singing.

Because you sing with me, and harmonize beautifully.

Because you always jump to the same harmony I do.

Because we finish each other's...sandwiches.

Because the day we collaborated on that spec script was one of the most exciting of my life.

Because you took me to Paris.

Because you love that Charlie calls you Uncle Ish.

Because you buy too much wine, and make a killer martini.

Because you read more political blogs than I do.

Because you always beat me at trivia.

Because you have taken the time to try and figure out who you are and what you want, because "almost" wasn't good enough.

Because your bravery in pursuing stand-up awes me, has always awed me.

Because you and I are the worst negotiators ever, and have our collective four cats to prove it.

Because you are good and kind and handsome and smart and loving and caring and thoughtful and you make me laugh every day.

Because you are my part-mer.

And maybe because three times is the charm.

But mostly because this is how it should be, should feel. Because you make me so happy, because you make my life more fun and exciting than it's ever been. Because the thought of a life with you does not worry or frighten me, but fills me with joy and hope and outright glee. Because I know I am loved so very much in return.

Because of all of this,

because I want yours to be the face I see first thing each morning and last at night for as long as we have days,

because of so much more I cannot put into words,

I just answered Yes, I will marry you.

Because of course, yes, of course, I will.

163 comments:

  1. congrats, Kristy! I know we don't know each other, but reading your blog makes me feel like I know you, and I am so glad you've found someone who makes you so happy.

    ReplyDelete
  2. Thanks, Bethany! And also, I took a picture at BlogHer Boston for you! The bar at the hotel had a perfect use of unnecessary quotations! I just have to get it from my phone, which is always a feat...

    ReplyDelete
  3. hooray for you--I feel a little weird being so excited to read such an intimate post of someone I don't know.

    ReplyDelete
  4. I'm doing the happy dance for you both!

    That's how it should be, everything you wrote. I'm so glad you found that in each other. :-)

    ReplyDelete
  5. whoop! Congratulations! Beautiful post. :)

    (I can't remember if I've commented on your blog before, but if not, HI! :P)

    ReplyDelete
  6. long-time listener, first time caller: CONGRATS! i have a tear. this is so sweet.

    ReplyDelete
  7. Congratulations Kristy!! I'm so happy for the two of you :)

    ReplyDelete
  8. Congrats to both of you!!

    Your words fill me with hope for my own future.

    ReplyDelete
  9. I am so happy for you and Ish.

    I could see where this post was going and had to scroll down to the end quickly - couldn't contain my excitement. Wow. Way to make my day. I'm over the moon for you both.

    You give me hope.

    ReplyDelete
  10. Yeah! Yeah! Yeah! I have been waiting for this moments for a while...thought it would happen in Paris. I am so happy for you. I know your dreams are coming true.

    ReplyDelete
  11. Congratulations!!!
    Your post totally made me cry.
    I'm such a girl.

    ReplyDelete
  12. This makes me so very happy!

    ReplyDelete
  13. Beautiful post. Just beautiful. Congratulations to the both of you -- I've been following you two for years.

    *sniffle*

    ReplyDelete
  14. Yip-yippee HOORAY!!! So happy for you!! It sounds like you said yes for all the right reasons!!

    ReplyDelete
  15. I've never commented before but I love your blog and congratulations!

    ReplyDelete
  16. ohhh... you made me cry with this one! what a lovely post.

    and congratulations to you both (apparently, i have to use twitter AND your blog to say that!).

    yaaay!

    ReplyDelete
  17. Awesome. I've been reading your blog since you all started dating. Congrats.

    ReplyDelete
  18. Just. so. excited. for both of you. Congratulations and a million hugs and a few tears.

    ReplyDelete
  19. Congrats, Kristy! So happy you are happy. And just think, after the BlogHer Conferences, whipping up a wedding ain't no big thang!

    ReplyDelete
  20. CONGRATULATIONS! I've been reading your blog for years...way before you met Ish. So so happy for you both!! Glad you two are making it official. :o)

    ReplyDelete
  21. Again, congrats!! I love the post, it is beautiful.

    ReplyDelete
  22. A big sap? Perhaps. Even so, I wish for you this...

    ... that you'll begin and end every single day with a deep, meaningful kiss that reminds you both how much you dig each other.

    ... that you'll save the best of yourselves for each other and let the rest of the world take you however you manage to show up.

    ... that the asset you tend to most often and with the most care is your family, however you come to define it.

    ... and that as, your relationship grows and changes, you'll never forget how you felt the day you said "Yes, I will marry you."

    I wish I knew you because it's pretty ridiculous to be this happy for someone I've never met.

    Yay you.

    ReplyDelete
  23. Congratulations! We briefly spoke at BlogherDC, so I really don't know you beyond what you write here and I'm still so excited for you. I wish you both much more of what seems to be a wonderfully loving relationship. Can't wait to see what you write as an old married lady.

    ReplyDelete
  24. Hey, congrats!

    ReplyDelete
  25. CONGRATS! (Lots of shrieking and yelling like a girl). It is a beautiful post. I wish you both a lovely engagement.

    ReplyDelete
  26. hoorah! i'm so happy for you both, even though you're still technically imaginary to me.

    :-)

    ReplyDelete
  27. Wow. Congrats, I got goose bumps reading your post.

    ReplyDelete
  28. Woah, I didn't see that coming. Not one bit. Congratulations!! And thanks for a lovely reminder of some of the reasons I still love and adore the guy I said my "I dos" to.

    ReplyDelete
  29. Delurking to say I'm so happy for you both. Being married to your best friend is awesome. Congratulations!

    ReplyDelete
  30. YAY Kristy!

    I hope you and Ish are as happy as Mr. Dizzy and I have been for the past 22 years and counting (and it just keeps getting better every day).

    ReplyDelete
  31. Congratulations! I am so very excited for you both.

    ReplyDelete
  32. congrats congrats congrats!

    With the right person, marriage is the best thing ever and worth trying for again and again.

    ReplyDelete
  33. Patriarchyyyyyyyyyyyyyy, damn it.

    But, congratulations to you both. Seriously.

    ReplyDelete
  34. Congrats Kristy and Ish!

    ReplyDelete
  35. I am so happy for you both! Congrats.

    ReplyDelete
  36. Like a few others, I've been reading your blog for years (pre-Ish as well), but have never commented. However, this post cannot go by without a comment- I am so happy and thrilled for you! Thanks for sharing your life, your journey, and your happiness. =) CONGRATS!!!!

    ReplyDelete
  37. Hooray!!! I'm so excited for you both!

    I read your divorce story many months ago when I first started reading here, and you really inspired me with your strength. I'm so happy that things have been getting better and better for you over the years, and this is the cherry on top. Congratulations!!!

    ReplyDelete
  38. I thought this post might be leading to that - congratulations!! I've never met either of you but wow - I'm so happy for you!

    ReplyDelete
  39. The hope and experience you have and share are a constant genuine inspiration...and one reason why I still have hope after crushing experiences...

    Thanks for sharing a moment that I know you're enjoying so much. xo, l

    ReplyDelete
  40. EEK! That's sensational news! Congratulations!

    ReplyDelete
  41. Filled with joy for you both! You are family and you are a friend to strangers like me, and I bet there are lots of us, dotted all over the country, jumping and squealing and wishing we could scoop you both up in a big hug. It is such delicious news!

    ReplyDelete
  42. I've only commented once before (a week or so ago), but I had to say it:

    CONGRATULATIONS!

    I hope that the future exceeds your expectations and each "because" becomes more and more fulfilling every day of your life.

    ReplyDelete
  43. I am so very happy for you! I read your blog often, but don't comment very much.. but you should know that I couldn't be more excited for someone even if I did know them! Congratulations!

    ReplyDelete
  44. Congratulations! I told Mr. Sassymonkey and he says congrats as well!

    ReplyDelete
  45. Congratulations! I'm all weepy and happy for you!

    ReplyDelete
  46. Happy happy joy joy! I think I've been waiting for this more than you!

    ReplyDelete
  47. What a wonderful post, made me tear up!
    Congratulations!

    ReplyDelete
  48. YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Another imaginary friend you don't know chiming in with congrats!

    'nilla

    ReplyDelete
  49. That is truly heart-warming news. Congratulations!

    ReplyDelete
  50. I am so happy for you! I haven't been reading here long, but in these few months I have grown to admire and respect you. You have made me cry, laugh, and smile. And just now, I thrust my arms in the air and cheered for you.

    Best wishes to you both.

    ReplyDelete
  51. The first thing that cam to mind was, "HOLY CRAP!"

    And that's in a good way! I know you will be, as you now are, very happy together.

    Congratulations!

    ReplyDelete
  52. Woohoo! Congrats Kristi!

    Knowing that there is happiness in this world makes me happy! Love is precious, and I'm glad that you've found it.

    ReplyDelete
  53. Oh, yay!! Congratulations!! That gives me hope, too, :) How exciting!

    ReplyDelete
  54. Awesome. Congrats to you both.

    ReplyDelete
  55. OMG! Congratulations!!! That's amazing!

    ReplyDelete
  56. Well, holy shit!

    Congratulations!

    ReplyDelete
  57. Congrats kristy and Ish! What exciting news...

    ReplyDelete
  58. Congratulations!!

    ReplyDelete
  59. Awwwwwww, CONGRATULATIONS! I'm weeping into my coffee, lady!

    ReplyDelete
  60. WOOOO!!!!
    Yay, you guys!!!
    Be happiest!

    ReplyDelete
  61. i am thrilled for you both.
    be excellent to each other.
    congrats!!

    ReplyDelete
  62. Yippee!!!!!!!!!!! So very happy for you!

    ReplyDelete
  63. As with many others, this is my first comment, but I couldn't go without sharing how happy I am for you and Ish! Your post was so beautiful and successful at conveying a small part of your feelings. I got goose bumps and teary eyed. Wishing you all the joy of loving and being loved.

    ReplyDelete
  64. AHHHHHHHHHH SQUEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!

    I'm at a complete loss of words...all I can do is squeal. Seriously. OMG you guys totally rock and yeah YAY! Congratulations.

    ReplyDelete
  65. This is the best post I've every read! Thank you for sharing it with us. I'm so happy for both of you.

    I hope that one day I find someone who will finish my sandwiches.

    (((Big Hugs)))

    ReplyDelete
  66. Oh my goodness!! I'm so happy for y'all!! Congratulations to you both!!

    ReplyDelete
  67. Oh my goodness!! I couldn't skip to the end because I knew where this was going and its SO SO EXCITING. Congratulations, from this perfect stranger who has admired you for years. You deserve this happiness - cant wait to hear all about it :)

    ReplyDelete
  68. Congrats!

    Please make sure this is the person you want to drive crazy the rest of your life.

    ReplyDelete
  69. Did you just hear me screaming as I read this?!?!

    CONGRATULATIONS! I wish you every happiness! Oh! I need to take you out for a celebratory drink or three!

    ReplyDelete
  70. Congratulations!!!

    So happy for you and Ish.

    Couldn't happen to two nicer, cleverer, wittier, funnier people.

    Kismet.

    ReplyDelete
  71. Congratulations! I'm so happy for you both! I, like someone else said, feel silly for being this excited and happy for someone I don't know... but I am and I don't care!

    ReplyDelete
  72. Congrats - I did not see that coming at all! So nice.

    ReplyDelete
  73. I didn't see that one coming either. I kinda thought you would end with "That's why I'll continue to wait until the time is right." like some of your previous posts have. The excited gasp that came out of my mouth when I got to the end woke the cat. And yes, I found it a little silly that I was crying tears of joy for an IIF. But whatever...yay! So...details, details! You can't leave us hanging! What kind of amazing scenario did your good and kind and handsome and smart and loving and caring and thoughtful FIANCE cook up for the occasion?

    ReplyDelete
  74. congrats! what a wonderful surprise!

    ReplyDelete
  75. OH MY GOD ! I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!

    CONGRATULATIONS !!! *JUMPING UP AND DOWN* We've never met...but like so many of the women who read your blog - we have many traits in common (breezy elegance included) and you always make me smile and give me hope...and now this !!!!! YAY FOR YOU BOTH. You are amazing, and deserve the best...and you have it in each other I do believe.

    ReplyDelete
  76. Stacy (in San Francisco)8:49 PM, October 19, 2008

    OMG, this is the GREATEST NEWS. How WONDERFUL!! If there was ever anyone who deserved to be loved and happy after all they've been through, it's you and Ish. :)

    I'm thrilled for you both, and so appreciative that you've shared your joy here with us your readers. I hope we do meet in person some day so I can tell you as much again.

    Congratulations to a beautiful, deserving and wonderful couple. :)

    ReplyDelete
  77. omigooodness!!! im sooo happy for you!! i've read your blogs since the beginning of the summer and i;ve always thought you were a great person! so funny and smart! im so happy! i hope everything goes perfectly!

    ReplyDelete
  78. I almost audibly starting screaming OMGOMGOMG! YAY! THIS IS THE BEST!

    ReplyDelete
  79. you know the blogosphere of invisible sex in the city watching friends has been WAITING for this, right?
    many congrats and happy wishes!

    ReplyDelete
  80. Goosebumps, that was so beautiful. Though we've never met, congratulations to you both!

    ReplyDelete
  81. After 24 years of marriage I can still tick off more than 80% of the items in your list regarding my beloved. I think that means I made a good decision. I also think, from my perspective, that you have, as well. Many, many gloriously happy wishes for a long and loving and wonderful future together!

    ReplyDelete
  82. yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay.
    you guys rock.

    now give us the story of the engagement!!!!!

    ReplyDelete
  83. this is just the most beautiful thing. I'm so happy for you!! Congratulations and best of everything to you both!!!

    In a side note, this is SOOOO much better than my "yes, I will marry you"... my exact words were "DUH!!!"

    ReplyDelete
  84. Ack! Congratulations! So excited for you!!

    ReplyDelete
  85. A big congrats to both of you!! Yay!!

    Wonderfully sweet post, too :)

    ReplyDelete
  86. AHHH! Congratulations, Kristy.

    ReplyDelete
  87. That's lovely. Congratulations. (I just got married a few weeks ago, and I highly recommend it.)

    ReplyDelete
  88. I just teared up. SO HAPPY FOR YOU BOTH....I cannot wait to keep reading about your future together :)

    ReplyDelete
  89. I definitely just teared up.

    Congratulations!! I'm so, so happy for you!

    ReplyDelete
  90. O!M!G! Congratulations. I am crying!!! You deserve it!

    ReplyDelete
  91. Wonderful! HE sounds like what a partner should be- not perfect, but perfect for you.
    Many blessings on your life together.

    ReplyDelete
  92. Ohmigod!!!!!
    So excited for you! Yay!Yay!Yay!
    Looooong time reader from the beginning. Big fan. Thrilled for your happiness!
    CONGRATULATIONS!

    ReplyDelete
  93. So wonderful for both of you! Congratulations!

    ReplyDelete
  94. YAY!
    Hope he didn't get any oil stains on his pants.

    ReplyDelete
  95. OMG!! Congratulations! That is fabulous news. I'd wish you joy, love, happiness and adventure - but it's obvious you've already found all that!

    Instead, let me wish you many, many, many continued blessings and beautiful days.

    Thanks for sharing your journey with us!

    ReplyDelete
  96. oh wow congrats what a sweet post :)

    ReplyDelete
  97. Woo-Hoo! Open up the champers Kristy, I raise my glass to you!

    ReplyDelete
  98. WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOW! Congratulations, that is BEAUTIFUL!! Yayayayaya I'm so happy for you and Ish!

    ReplyDelete
  99. I am SOO excited for you!! Congrats!

    Maybe you should have another meet and greet for all your blog readers so we can toast!

    ReplyDelete
  100. Wonderful news! Congratulations!

    ReplyDelete
  101. Congratulations. I don't know either of you but you sound like you're good for each other. And you are friends. Believe me, that counts for a lot!

    ReplyDelete
  102. Yay! I knew it would happen soon, I could just tell :)

    ReplyDelete
  103. congratulations!!!! i've never been so excited for someone i don't actually know.

    it reminded me of my own engagement - about half way in, i was like oh my god, is this it? is this really happening? and then i raced through to the end. congratulations!!!!

    ReplyDelete
  104. I am so happy for you... I really don't know how it would feel to have so many people that you don't know silently rooting on your relationship... but that was me cheering from the Internet sidelines. Way to go, score one for happy!

    ReplyDelete
  105. Let me be the 120th person to congratulate you (because 119 just isn't enough.)

    I wish you and Ish many years of love and happiness. Great post.

    ReplyDelete
  106. OMG CONGRATULATIONS!!!! if I were not at work and my boss were not under investigation and we were not all supposed to be somber, I would be screaming at the TOP of my lungs, WOOO HOOOOOOO!!!!!

    f.

    ReplyDelete
  107. Yay!! Love found via CL. Who would have thought it. I wish you and Ish many years of happiness together.

    Cheers!

    ReplyDelete
  108. Oh, Kristy! So very happy for the both of you! You deserve all the love he gives to you, and all the happiness you have found together.

    I just married my Lobster last Sunday after a four-year courtship. We are over the moon and can't wait for the adventures life brings us together. I wish you and Ish a lifetime full of lovely adventures, great and small!

    ReplyDelete
  109. I just want to say congrats! I have been reading your blog for years now. You have a wonderful way of writing that makes me feel like I'm not the only crazy awkward person in this world!

    I have laughed so loud that I've burst into tears reading some of your more funny posts (Fireman Ass, Birthday Butt, etc.). I think it's because I can totally relate (...I fall....It's what I do best...)

    I'm very happy for you and want to thank you for entertaining me and making me feel like I'm not the only clutzy gal in this crazy world.!

    ReplyDelete
  110. Such wonderful news!!!! Congratulations!

    ReplyDelete
  111. Oh congratulations. And what an amazing, beautifully written post. I'm all teary eyed.

    ReplyDelete
  112. Congratulations, I'm very happy for you!

    ReplyDelete
  113. 'Bout damn time!
    Congrats, congrats, congrats!!!!

    Cutie

    ReplyDelete
  114. OMG, you just made me cry. Congratulations! Am so happy for you.

    ReplyDelete
  115. Well said, well done. I am so happy for the two of you. Enjoy the best of all that life has to offer. I am just tickled pink for you - Vicki

    ReplyDelete
  116. Ohh and because he speaks Chinese and plays Trombone and Guitar, and loves your little sister! :) XOXO

    ReplyDelete
  117. CONGRATULATIONS! A lifetime of happiness, to every day being celebrated with each other.
    Best wishes.

    ReplyDelete
  118. Congratulations to you and Ish! Excited for you and sending much love and happiness your way.

    ReplyDelete
  119. YAY! I don't know you, but I love your blog. I got goose bumps and went "aww!" when I read this post. Congrats!

    ReplyDelete
  120. Oh Kiki!!!

    You probably don't remember me....it's Shawndra, from Santa Rosa..although I'm living in Oregon now.

    Congratulations sweetheart...I'm so very happy for you and Ish!

    You always have such beautiful words. I miss chatting with you.

    *much love*
    Shawndra

    ReplyDelete
  121. is it weird to cry while reading a strangers blog post? CONGRATULATIONS!

    ReplyDelete
  122. Sorry I'm just now commenting, but, WOO-HOO! Holla at both you and Ish. I couldn't be happier for you two and wish you all the laughs in the world. Yippie!

    Love you darling...you deserve it!

    ReplyDelete
  123. Congratulations to you both! The collective 3rd time will most surely be the charm.

    Simply wonderful!

    ReplyDelete
  124. *totally teared up*

    Thank you for sharing this moment with us in such a beautiful way. Congratulations to both of you. May your marriage be blessed!

    ReplyDelete
  125. CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

    I am so happy for both of you and wish you many happy years together.

    ReplyDelete
  126. What a fabulous post.

    Congratulations to you both!

    Your viewing audience is thoroughly excited for you and cannot wait to hear all about your future journey together, as we have followed your past and your present.

    YAY!

    ReplyDelete
  127. Holy frickin cow poop!

    CONGRATULATIONS~

    I don't know you except for reading your words every posting....but so HAPPY for you!

    ReplyDelete
  128. congratulations kristy!!!!!
    another reader who doesn't know you here, who got very excited as she read all the great things about ish culmunating in that last sentance!! :) yay!
    happy for you!

    ReplyDelete
  129. What an amazing feeling. My kids are trying to understand why their nutjob of a mom is crying over someone - whom. I. have. never. met. - getting engaged. You & Ish have a hysterical life ahead of you, and I'm so happy!

    ReplyDelete
  130. Yayyy! Kristy! Yaaaay!

    ReplyDelete
  131. yay! I am totally happy-crying for you RIGHT NOW. You can prolly hear me sniffling over the cube wall ;)

    ReplyDelete
  132. Oh my goodness! I don't even know you in real life and I just gasped out loud. I'm so incredibly happy for you - many wishes for a happy, healthy and long partnership.

    ReplyDelete
  133. Yay, congratulations to the both of you! Here's to hope. :)

    ReplyDelete
  134. This post had (like so many of yours) me bawling like a baby.

    I am so happy for you both!

    ReplyDelete
  135. I have been following your blog ever since the "yes, this is my ass" post a couple years ago. I am SO happy for you, my iif!

    ReplyDelete
  136. Soooo Happy for you both - congratulations!!! Fantastic post! Wheeee Hooooo!

    ReplyDelete
  137. Hooray for you and Ish! So incredibly happy for you both.

    ReplyDelete
  138. YAY! CONGRATS! So happy for you two!

    ReplyDelete
  139. I haven't had a smile this big in quite some time. Loving this for you. All the best, my dear, to the fabulous you I know and the Ish I cannot wait to meet.

    ReplyDelete
  140. Fantastic! Congratulations to you and Ish!

    (Is it okay that I'm not surprised? Definitely touched by your eloquent announcement, though.)

    Yay!

    ReplyDelete
  141. Congratulations!!! I am so happy for you!

    ReplyDelete
  142. OH MY FREAKIN GAWD! I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU!

    (I can't believe I just teared up...ok, yes I can! LOL)

    ReplyDelete
  143. I'm not exactly an IIF (nor am I a RL one)...but I wanted to congratulate you, too, Kiki.

    I know it's been a long road for you. I was there on a teeny, tiny part of it, and I've been following sporadically since.

    Anyway, I'm happy for you both.

    Your life is really coming together and it's been a pleasure to watch.

    Again, congratulations! Yay!

    ReplyDelete
  144. P.S. Isn't it amazing the difference *compatibility* makes?!

    ;)

    ReplyDelete
  145. That's beautiful, Kristy. Love this post. Many excellent reasons to get married. :)

    ReplyDelete