tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post8336796513111072349..comments2024-03-28T09:41:36.745-07:00Comments on She Just Walks Around With It: I Am Not The New Stalekristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00879301751663532121noreply@blogger.comBlogger41125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-74418626972877611812007-11-10T20:13:00.000-08:002007-11-10T20:13:00.000-08:00You're not the new stale. You're the latest blogge...You're not the new stale. You're the latest blogger to be added to my "must read" list.<BR/><BR/>I had someone leaving negative comments on my blog a couple weeks ago, assuming the name and website of an online friend of mine. I was extremely hurt, and confronted the friend about it, only to discover that it wasn't her at all. The comments have since stopped, but I was definitely injured by them. So I understand.Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08197440997007714735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-43663751246919126182007-11-07T05:21:00.000-08:002007-11-07T05:21:00.000-08:00I am completely fascinated by the folks who post t...I am completely fascinated by the folks who post the anonymous-and-negative comments. I mean... okay. If you absolutely need to tell someone they suck, at least have the balls/ ovaries/ whatever to put your name on it. Negative comments used to really upset me.<BR/><BR/>Then I discovered the 'block user' function. It's nice.<BR/><BR/>Oh, and I love your blog. Stale is crappy bread. You are of vintage. In a good way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-87948203106610499832007-11-02T23:17:00.000-07:002007-11-02T23:17:00.000-07:00"Now, if Kristy were to begin writing with passion..."Now, if Kristy were to begin writing with passion about something that REALLY matters, like the illegal Iraq war, the Iraq prison scandal, CIA's use of torture, the crimes committed by Bush, Cheney, and their accompanying alphabet soup cronies..."<BR/><BR/>so, real life doesn't matter? that's pretty much what i get out of kristy's blog; a funny take on one woman's real life. again, ONE WOMAN'S life. <BR/><BR/>if i want to read about all that other stuff (and i do), i go elsewhere.terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02758974079951716931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-68873819154206158092007-11-02T19:33:00.000-07:002007-11-02T19:33:00.000-07:00Here's something that might help you. It isn't ab...Here's something that might help you. It isn't about you at all, or even what you write. <BR/><BR/>I used to post more openly on my blog, nothing terribly earth shattering, but just some stuff happening around the neighborhood and my feelings about it.<BR/><BR/>I got viscious negative comments from people calling me every evil thing that exists and I finally got tired of it so ii removed every single post I had that was the least bit controversial and I only write things that are completely bland and non offensive to anyone any more.<BR/><BR/>A few weeks ago, I wrote a boring ass post about grooming my dogs, completely non-offensive in every way. I got a comment that said "fuck you and fuck your dog." That just goes to prove that there are many assholes in the world and most of them know how to comment. <BR/><BR/>The point is, write what you want because the assholes will comment anyway. Don't deprive the rest of us because of a couple of idiots.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16349765563150981854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-90518630318395912922007-11-01T21:50:00.000-07:002007-11-01T21:50:00.000-07:00Did I miss something? I don't believe Kristy ever...Did I miss something? I don't believe Kristy every purported to be a political blog or a current events blog or anything of the sort. I am pretty sure this blog was originally intended to chronicle her weight-loss and then it evolved into a general chronicle of her day-to-day life.<BR/><BR/>I think it is unfair to dismiss her writing because it does not cover topics of gravity such as the war, the current administration, etc. This would be like accusing a knitting blog of having too few posts about the sub-prime housing crisis.<BR/><BR/>It's called apples and oranges, people. If you don't like what she posts, don't read it.A Lil' Irish Lasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08097756919669746821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-29337522150418990862007-11-01T17:43:00.000-07:002007-11-01T17:43:00.000-07:00Joy - then why do you read it? I don't get it. W...Joy - then why do you read it? I don't get it. Why on earth would you read her blog if you don't think it's worth reading? Nothing better to do with your time? <BR/><BR/>I don't get it.TheOneTrueSuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04756132396031048647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-3134426889684651782007-11-01T13:08:00.000-07:002007-11-01T13:08:00.000-07:00Kristy, maybe Joy just doesn't have a blog herself...Kristy, maybe Joy just doesn't have a blog herself to link to. I hate when people do this - decide they don't like someone and then decide because of that, everything about them, their character is to be picked on. <BR/><BR/>Obviously her personal definition of a writer is different than yours. Let that be okay. Let people disagree with you. She wasn't cruel. She just doesn't see in you, your blog, what I and many others who read and like you do see. <BR/><BR/>I hate that almost as much as the "You don't like me? Well, clearly you must be jealous!" I dislike George Bush, but I'm certainly not jealous of him. I dislike Hitler, but I'm not jealous of him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-66628498456969890712007-11-01T12:00:00.000-07:002007-11-01T12:00:00.000-07:00joy - several of the comments here kept "frankly" ...joy - <BR/><BR/>several of the comments here kept "frankly" gender-neutral, and several assigned "frankly" a female gender. i don't know why you'd take issue with that.<BR/><BR/>and good lord - whoever said "erudite"??? <BR/><BR/>i'm not a political blogger. doesn't mean i don't write with passion and it doesn't mean i'm not a "real" writer. (now, not being published? that might mean i'm not a real writer, and i'd probably agree with that one...)<BR/><BR/>and that is really great that you don't care what others comment about you. more power to you! funny, though, that you posted anonymously...kristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00879301751663532121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-84221252486086863812007-11-01T11:28:00.000-07:002007-11-01T11:28:00.000-07:00Uhm...What makes you all so sure that frankly spea...Uhm...What makes you all so sure that frankly speaking was a man anyway? I don't get it, there's not a single gender reference posted therein and yet it's automatically assumed that it was a guy who posted, not a woman.<BR/><BR/>I mean, isn't Kristy equal opportunity-ish enough and can garner negative comments from a woman just as easily as she can from a man?<BR/><BR/>Well, one can hope, yes?<BR/><BR/>And for the record, I'm Joy and no, I don't find Kristy's blog all that uhm...what's the word you people use...charming? endearing? gut-wrenching honest? erudite? humorous? I guess ___ works (fill in the blank to your heart's content)<BR/><BR/>Now, if Kristy were to begin writing with passion about something that REALLY matters, like the illegal Iraq war, the Iraq prison scandal, CIA's use of torture, the crimes committed by Bush, Cheney, and their accompanying alphabet soup cronies, well then...I might actually think she's a legit writer. Until then, she remains a blogger who has a swell (engorged?) following.<BR/><BR/>To a small degree, I have to say I agree with frankly speaking.<BR/><BR/>Ok, flame on but may I remind you, unlike Kristy, I don't let negative comments affect me. I don't let others have that much power over my well-being.<BR/><BR/>Cheers!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-52775577508899931612007-11-01T01:12:00.000-07:002007-11-01T01:12:00.000-07:00People like that usually get a kick out of being a...People like that usually get a kick out of being anonymous on the internet. In other words, they wouldn't have the guts to say it to your face in the real world.<BR/><BR/>In my experience? Forget them. They may have the time to type out such negativity, but it'll just make them happier to get a reaction. Meanwhile, you have a whole great life to live which they are not even a part of.<BR/><BR/>Of course, if the comment isn't just plain mean, it's worth taking with a grain of salt. :)<BR/><BR/>Keep happy!Daisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00608985226725838607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-21796034298007021012007-10-31T14:30:00.000-07:002007-10-31T14:30:00.000-07:00That may be it. But why get down on someone for o...That may be it. But why get down on someone for owning her life, beauty marks, warts and all? Just. so. weird.<BR/><BR/>And now it's time for a martini. And to move along to other things. Hey look! Slutty costumes!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-43708494261676914882007-10-31T13:26:00.000-07:002007-10-31T13:26:00.000-07:00I love your blog, Kristy; it has become one of my ...I love your blog, Kristy; it has become one of my "must reads" every morning when I get to my desk (because my actual JOB work? psh).<BR/><BR/>Though my blog is quite a bit smaller than yours, I've gotten a few nasty posts myself. One in particular comes to mind. I had just started writing and was still nervous about putting myself out there when I received an anonymous comment stating:<BR/><BR/>"Everything about this post is lame. Weak at best."<BR/><BR/>I nearly cried. <BR/><BR/>And then I got pissed. As you said, a blog is a) personal b) personal and c) personal. This jerk-off was saying that I was lame. That I was "weak at best." And that hurt.<BR/><BR/>Right up until I realized that this disease was wasting time reading and posting on a blog he thought was crap. Anonymously! Who's weak and lame now?A Lil' Irish Lasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08097756919669746821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-32332016841190166112007-10-31T13:04:00.000-07:002007-10-31T13:04:00.000-07:00Thank you for the positive reinforcement. I forge...Thank you for the positive reinforcement. I forget how forceful with the positivity you all can be! It's wonderful and overwhelming.<BR/><BR/>And I kind of feel like a boob (not the good kind) because I don't call out negativity solely to receive more positive comments, yet that does seem to happen. I swear I don't do it on purpose.<BR/><BR/>You are so nice. Why does one bad in a barrel of good matter so much? At all. <BR/><BR/>Beth - we have discussed this and I really don't know. Sometimes I wonder if it's confidence? I mean, I'm a friggin' MESS but I'm confident about my mess. Maybe there's some uncomfortable-ness in that. Like, how <I>dare</I> I be overweight and drink and have sex and date non-single men and WRITE about it IN PUBLIC as if I'm OKAY with it and even sometimes perfectly HAPPY? You know?kristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00879301751663532121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-17557463967960939492007-10-31T12:54:00.000-07:002007-10-31T12:54:00.000-07:00I will always say that the readership of your blog...I will always say that the readership of your blog is the strangest I've encountered on the Internet. The large percentage of commenters are lovely and supportive and even-if-I-don't-agree-with-you-I-still-recognize-your-right-to-your-opinion people. <BR/><BR/>But the wrath-filled commenters -- the ones who used to steer every comment session into a "Kiki sucks!" "No she doesn't" festival before you turned on moderation -- they're just so...interesting.<BR/>Don't get me wrong. It's horrible to get on the Internet and tell a stranger that she's uninteresing and self-centered, but I just find the amount of energy put into this seething dislike of someone who just put herself out there intriguing. I mean, we all have a co-worker or two whose life choices we don't agree with and/or whom we find ugly, boring, etc., but who walks up to said co-worker and states, "Y'know, I don't like YOU and the way you do your job and even though everyone else around here thinks you're awesome at it, they're WRONG and also suckers." Do people even do this to celebrities, other than the occasional crazed fan-gone-stalker? I know newspapers write awful things about them so that I can read it, but do random people come up to them on the street and say, "I find you pretentious and not a good actor"?<BR/><BR/>I think this must all be a by-product of the blog medium. And while it's natural to try to figure out what it is about you that inspired (and apparently inspires) all this ire...I honestly can't put my finger on what it must be. The closest I can come is that perhaps people are inordinately pissed off at SF in general? Perhaps they're annoyed that you dated a guy while he was still officially married in the eyes of the Lord and the state? I don't know. So while I might (might!) be biased, I must conclude that it's not you. It's them and whatever effed-up issues they have themselves surrounding self-esteem/willingness to laugh at themselves/weight/what have you. *It's not you, it's <I>them</I>! Thanks, Mom!*<BR/><BR/>Regardless of my intrigue, it sucks. And I'm sorry.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-33333836798459380442007-10-31T12:05:00.000-07:002007-10-31T12:05:00.000-07:00K,I don't have a lot of experience with this (sinc...K,<BR/><BR/>I don't have a lot of experience with this (since I get something like A comment every six months or so...) but when people are unnecessarily mean in daily life, I always just tell them it's because they're super-jealous of how awesome I am. (And I really do believe that's Frankly's issue.)<BR/><BR/>And then I hum "Hey Jealousy" by the Gin Blossoms. God Bless the music of the 90s!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-51357354703168142152007-10-31T10:58:00.000-07:002007-10-31T10:58:00.000-07:00I've had a blog since 2003 and luckily I've had ex...I've had a blog since 2003 and luckily I've had extremely few mean comments over the years, even though I've had quite a bit of traffic at times. <BR/><BR/>Although I agree with everything you've said here (of course!) and I know blog-ranting feel great, what I think works even better is simply deleting the offensive comment and not mentioning it. That's what I try to do today.<BR/><BR/>That way my readers don't have to see it and get upset on my behalf (and they will!) and it's easier for me to forget about it if it's gone. Then I move on to other things.<BR/><BR/>I know, easier said than done and as I said, I've ranted about commenters in my blog too but...<BR/><BR/>It just makes the person who made the comment in the first place smirk because now they got a reaction out of us.<BR/><BR/>Which is what they wanted all along. Plus it needlessly upsets your readers who, I'm sure, come here like I do because we like YOU. Not some asswipe who does not have the guts to make <I>themselves</I> vulnerable to the world and instead pokes at people who DO.<BR/><BR/>So, delete and forget; Just my two cents. <BR/><BR/>Love your blog, btw. :)Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12275774046219836099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-31278790972178200322007-10-31T10:51:00.000-07:002007-10-31T10:51:00.000-07:00I don't blog regularly, (just a little bit on mysp...I don't blog regularly, (just a little bit on myspace) but the only negative comments I've received were from close friends. Who think they're funny. (They're not.) So I called them dickheads and got over it. <BR/><BR/>I think you should check with Dan of [redacted]. I bet he's got some great advice for letting stuff like this rolling off your back. (Or revenge.)<BR/><BR/>On myspace there is a published author who writes blogs regularly and wants a dialog with his readers. There has been this enormous douchebag the past few days who not only insults the writer of the blog, but the vapidity of his readers. It's so blatantly jealousy that I can only chuckle. (This is my longest comment ever. Sorry 'bout that.)<BR/><BR/>I hope you keep making me laugh!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-29368051595454126742007-10-31T10:30:00.000-07:002007-10-31T10:30:00.000-07:00Anonymous jerks make me disproportionately angry t...Anonymous jerks make me disproportionately angry too. I don't know why. Most of the time I want to say "and YOU are so interesting, flawless, smart and good at grammar? Prove it." It goes with the territory of popularity I guess. But I totally know what you mean. Also, Suebob, best costume ever.bethanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08163733354894909762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-4364923889612742392007-10-31T10:09:00.000-07:002007-10-31T10:09:00.000-07:00K - There are some blogs (not yours for the last y...K - <BR/><BR/>There are some blogs (not yours for the last year or so though) that have nasty commenter wars and commenters who are haters of the writer. Some bloggers turn off comments entirely. <BR/><BR/>I think that if you publish a blog online, you need to just accept the haters. If you are writing only to keep a personal history - then write it, but don't publish it.<BR/>I am also not a fan of commenters who then jump on the hater, calling him/her an asshole. IF you (one) allows comments - then allow them. Just my 02 cents, since you asked. You did, right?<BR/><BR/>-KirinAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-28202747634223555962007-10-31T09:58:00.000-07:002007-10-31T09:58:00.000-07:00amen woman. i think you should make a picture pos...amen woman. i think you should make a picture post of his little anonymous stick self taking a long walk off a short cliff.<BR/><BR/>you know, just saying.<BR/><BR/>oh, and i think you rock.<BR/><BR/><BR/>xo, bbUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17839988203087583666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-907336088913905962007-10-31T09:54:00.000-07:002007-10-31T09:54:00.000-07:00You go girl!You go girl!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-73742372696450964382007-10-31T09:49:00.000-07:002007-10-31T09:49:00.000-07:00I left a comment over there, Kristy, but either it...I left a comment over there, Kristy, but either it's being moderated or the Machine doesn't like the word "masturbator."<BR/><BR/>I equated the negative anonymous commenters with the public masturbators that dotted my young life (apparently I was the target for such activity more than most), who taught me how to withhold the one thing they wanted: a reaction.<BR/><BR/>I wrote (something like), just do what I learned to do, nod slightly to indicate yeah, I see what you're doing, then keep walking. (They're the ones with the mental illness, the compulsion to act out.)<BR/><BR/>OR... do what you do, because you have many defenders. Including me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-937421425922410052007-10-31T08:26:00.000-07:002007-10-31T08:26:00.000-07:00hi kristy!i used to read your blog and somehow wit...hi kristy!<BR/>i used to read your blog and somehow with all the chaos in my life, got distracted away and hadn't read it in ages.<BR/>but i'm back as a faithful one, and its BECAUSE of your writing, because of your life, because of you that i am back reading your blog and feeling like someone out there gets how i feel about things. and isn't afraid to say it. more honestly than i could and i appreciate that.<BR/>so THANK YOU for being honest and sincere and try to ignore the people who don't get you and simply want to make you feel bad to make themselves feel better. <BR/>clearly, we're with you :)<BR/>katekate ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12169330545652700609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-68844773288252513212007-10-31T07:55:00.001-07:002007-10-31T07:55:00.001-07:00I have had mixed reviews/comments about my bloggin...I have had mixed reviews/comments about my blogging over the years I have blogged. I get steamed, really fucking pissed and I always tell myself I won't but end up being upset anyways. <BR/>At the end of the post, though, I've been true to myself and my life and fuck someone who is so self righteous that they think the life of someone else isn't good enough, or someone made wrong choices, or someone is self centered on a *wtf* <I>personal blog!</I> <BR/>BTW, I love how you put it, real time memoir. That's perfect.<BR/>Just fuck 'em, especially if they can't have the cahones it takes to leave their name.GirlyWarriorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16631101707515701595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-10445732004904259982007-10-31T07:55:00.000-07:002007-10-31T07:55:00.000-07:00I only found your blog about a month ago. By the ...I only found your blog about a month ago. By the end of the weekend i had read most of your archives, and now I am kind of blog-stalking you. I'd like to tell Frankly to kiss off. I enjoy your blog very much, I enjoy your writing style and a glimpse into the life of an entertaining stranger. Thanks.The Maiden Metallurgisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05897256429726150185noreply@blogger.com