tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post5331750064167508615..comments2024-03-18T15:02:15.282-07:00Comments on She Just Walks Around With It: I'm Changing Everything! Maybe.kristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00879301751663532121noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-63439469311022682772011-06-20T13:47:09.446-07:002011-06-20T13:47:09.446-07:00Bartering Miniature Donkeys!!! Yes...I think I wa...Bartering Miniature Donkeys!!! Yes...I think I was there for that part! YAY!Normahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05981305445666437565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-15958972556870668722011-06-14T22:54:40.572-07:002011-06-14T22:54:40.572-07:00I love how your blog - and your life, really - hav...I love how your blog - and your life, really - have morphed so much since the days of the boxed-wine incident and worst kiss ever... and that you remain as funny and touching as ever. It's been a delight to follow your story!terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02758974079951716931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-10139121242684945842011-06-10T15:00:22.892-07:002011-06-10T15:00:22.892-07:00CHOICE. Isn't that what all these important de...CHOICE. Isn't that what all these important decisions are supposed to be about? Choice - if it's good enough for my vagina, it's good enough for my breasts as well.Abbehttp://abbesroad.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-60483846505479593232011-06-10T07:42:22.772-07:002011-06-10T07:42:22.772-07:00How's this for ironic...I was breastfeeding my...How's this for ironic...I was breastfeeding my daughter while reading this!! Good for you making the decision to stop. I agree with a few of the above commentors in saying I wish I'd had the courage to do the same with baby #1. They took her from me right after she was born and bottle fed her without letting me even try to BF, so right from the get go we were set to fail. It took a week and a half for my milk to come in, so there was a whole lot of crying and pain and anger going on for a while. Due to the horrible advice from the hospital lactation "specialist" I was miserably trying to make her latch for a while at each feeding, (so that my boobs would get the "make milk" memo) then feeding her a bottle of formula and feeling guilty, then still having to pump because she wasn't doing a good enough job latching. It took her 45 minutes to eat, took me about 10-15 to pump, and she wanted to eat every hour and a 1/2...even at night. I hated every second of it and I couldn't understand this "bonding with the baby" junk I'd always heard. Eventually my milk did come in, thought feeding never got easier or shorter with her, so I spent 7 months in misery till I finally weaned her. I never felt like it was anything special, I just felt like a "cow on a leash," as you so perfectly stated. I'm now on the boobfeeding train with baby #2, and while I do think my experiences with #1 have helped, it's still no fun. The first couple weeks were horrid while I was trying to adjust (My body kicked it into overdrive - I could have nursed a small army!) and trying to figure out the feeding wants/needs of this new little critter. We did eventually get it down to a science, and at 3 1/2 months we're going strong. I do still feel trapped at times, but I've already decided 6 months is my stopping point, so I just focus on the goal. I've already had a friend comment on the fact that I'm stopping "so soon." *She's* planning to breastfeed till one year and can't understand why anyone would do otherwise. Honestly, I've pretty much stopped caring about the opinions of others when it comes to myself and my children. My status as a "good mom" isn't based on what or how I feed my children. They are happy, taken care of, and most importantly, healthy! You shouldn't feel guilty for one second about being brave enough to make the decision that most woman are too scared to make! I let guilt and shame force me to stay miserable for 7 months, so kudos to you for breaking free!! Congrats, by the way, on the new little one! He's an absolute doll!<br /><br />And now, I will put away my soap box :)<br /><br />(It won't let me comment as my google id...weird)Christina Mhttp://ohhthemadness.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-46907602443621707242011-06-09T02:56:19.542-07:002011-06-09T02:56:19.542-07:00Three cheers for starting over... drying UP (as op...Three cheers for starting over... drying UP (as opposed to drying OUT), a little extra sleep (before your kids are in college), drama that we CAN manage to laugh about years later, and no ill-willed, candied-ass Anonymous comments...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10955314801525130784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-58750391973629372492011-06-08T12:32:17.722-07:002011-06-08T12:32:17.722-07:00Death is a very hard part to deal with, sorry to h...Death is a very hard part to deal with, sorry to hear about your mother. Hopefully she had all her finances in order as well as her will when she passed so as to not leave behind a burden with the <a href="http://ohio-publicrecords.org/ohio-death-records.html" rel="nofollow">death records</a>.Tammynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-47674468112043072122011-06-05T17:58:03.918-07:002011-06-05T17:58:03.918-07:00I'm an older mom whose kids are all raised. No...I'm an older mom whose kids are all raised. Not sure if it was because I lived out in the boonies,or if things were more relaxed back then. I must admit I was kind of a hippie. But I cannot believe the militancy going on these days regarding BF vs Bottles. I did breastfeed all three of my kids, but it would never have OCCURRED to me to judge somebody else for - or to even want to know - how they fed their baby. It was just flat-out none of my business. And never an issue. My siblings and I were all bottle/formula fed as babies and are still healthy and happy and all in our late forties/early fifties. You are obviously a very caring, loving mom and should not waste one second worrying about what others think. Live your life and do the best you can for yourself, your husband and your children. (And please keep writing about it because you are so damn interesting!)Dulcibellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12820138324493781780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-66332768948247950032011-06-04T19:45:27.121-07:002011-06-04T19:45:27.121-07:00I wish I had had the courage to stop breast feedin...I wish I had had the courage to stop breast feeding back when I felt like I had a justifiable reason. In the beginning, it hurt so bad I cried through every feeding. My nips were raw and blistered, and I wanted to give up so bad. But my guilt won, and I suffered through it. Now, the nips are totally desensitized and feeding doesn't hurt anymore. But it's just boring and constant. I hate feeling like a cow. I hate that my husband gets a full night's sleep while I'm getting my rest in 45-minute increments. Now I want to switch to formula because I'm just sick of breast feeding. But I feel like I missed my window to quit. Sounds like I have a book to read and a lot to think about. Thanks for making me feel like I'm NOT the worst mom ever.Melissa @ A Wide Linehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02267143049138258950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-50458096315385290822011-06-03T19:46:54.951-07:002011-06-03T19:46:54.951-07:00All I can say is figure out how to get some sleep,...All I can say is figure out how to get some sleep, and honestly you really need some serious counseling.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-43164967494920049092011-06-03T18:57:01.161-07:002011-06-03T18:57:01.161-07:00Go you! I loved Tina Fey's book too. She's...Go you! I loved Tina Fey's book too. She's so awesome.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09874186529099858245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-49493506398395798902011-06-03T18:46:51.434-07:002011-06-03T18:46:51.434-07:00Yay for you. I completely agree with the commmente...Yay for you. I completely agree with the commmenter who said "Sane mothers are great, babies that get fed are awesome."carlareyhttp://www.wednesdaywandered.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-73202358829351173722011-06-03T17:09:48.251-07:002011-06-03T17:09:48.251-07:00I'm sure you've been told this a thousand ...I'm sure you've been told this a thousand times... but I think you need to write a book. I realllly want to hear the dramatic Ish-dating backstory!!WannabeMommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17265649903888960082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-58034407104245554292011-06-03T12:26:58.604-07:002011-06-03T12:26:58.604-07:00I know I was put on this earth to be a mother, but...I know I was put on this earth to be a mother, but I also know I was not meant to breastfeed my kids. I hated it. They hated it. We all loved bottles and formula. They're healthy as can be and are blessed with a momma, who despite a short sojourn, did not end up residing permanently in CrazyTown because she couldn't feed them boobie juice. <br /><br />Good for you for making and owning your decision! Townsend is your baby so how you choose to feed him is your business. If you wanted to feed him liquefied chocolate pancakes, that would be your decision, and no one - except maybe Ish and Eve, who'd probably want some for themselves (in solid form, of course), should offer their two-cents about it.Brandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10473155650880276686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-10154617079050673062011-06-03T08:01:08.010-07:002011-06-03T08:01:08.010-07:00I wonder if the breastfeeding mafia is an internet...I wonder if the breastfeeding mafia is an internet thing or an American thing. I know some people go on about it in the UK but I didn't think it was this pronounced. Of course I have tended to avoid the Professional Mother as much as possible in case I go mad for a moment and smack her.<br /><br />I breastfed all of mine and loved it but that doesn't mean I love my kids more than a mother who bottle feeds. That is just ridiculous. Loving your kids, making sure they have all they need, including a reasonably sane and rested mother who knows she is doing the best for them rather than being drained and exhausted or riddled with guilt is what is important.Penblethhttp://penbleth.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-11845391323115255882011-06-03T07:30:24.920-07:002011-06-03T07:30:24.920-07:00I had the same issue. I suffered through it for 5...I had the same issue. I suffered through it for 5 weeks of having a kid on my boob every 45 minutes and him staying there for an hour at a time before I broke down and pulled out the bottles. (Didn't know enough to know he was using me as a pacifier.) It was such a relief that I wish I had done it sooner. I'm positive that it contributed to the PPD I went through...probably not the cause, but it sure didn't do me any favors regarding the severity. <br /><br />Good for you for recognizing what both you and your baby needed :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-60533543538382271062011-06-03T04:06:50.021-07:002011-06-03T04:06:50.021-07:00Good for you! What kids need most (in my opinion)...Good for you! What kids need most (in my opinion) is for their parents to be happy and sane and able to enjoy them!lisanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-79231906590310562702011-06-02T19:27:12.321-07:002011-06-02T19:27:12.321-07:00You're an inspiration, Kristy!You're an inspiration, Kristy!Oisellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04740679867804345564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-51536714708827241492011-06-02T16:51:12.931-07:002011-06-02T16:51:12.931-07:00I am looking forward to reading your stories on th...I am looking forward to reading your stories on the blog! Your writing is awesome,Kristy!<br /><br />And as for breastfeeding? I tried it. I failed at it. Miserably. My son was bottlefed from the time he was a few days old, adn I never regretted it. He turned out fine, and I got my boobs back. ;)Dizzy Ms. Lizzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06089738977432199662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-19793950243930393542011-06-02T16:21:07.364-07:002011-06-02T16:21:07.364-07:00I am standing up and applauding your choice, becau...I am standing up and applauding your choice, because you KNOW what is right for you and your family, and you are choosing to do it without guilt. I recently read a passage in a book that said, "Guilt destroys joy." Kudos to you for choosing joy!<br /><br />I'm excited to see what direction you're going to take! I've been reading since you and Ish went to France (and have read all your archives since), and I love your writing! No one says it like you do.Margaretnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-23087991824415427192011-06-02T10:31:54.103-07:002011-06-02T10:31:54.103-07:00flipping awesome. My wife was asked about the who...flipping awesome. My wife was asked about the whole breastfeeding thing when a stranger noticed her with a pacifier hanging out of her bag (mind you did not have the child with her). this stranger asked if she was bf, when the answer came back "nah, pumping though" you would have thought a mortal sin was being committed right then and there in the reaction.<br /><br />Priceless retort from my wife "Listen asshole, you try sticking your boob through a tiny opening in an isolette for 2 goddamn months while your kid is in the NICU then come talk to me about the atrocities of nipple confusion"<br /><br />Everyone's situation is different my wife's only materinal contribution for a while was to pump, couldn't hold the kid couldn't care for her. Let the haters hate and do what is best for your kids because you are awesome.diaperbagdadnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-26135523504277117582011-06-02T09:38:06.556-07:002011-06-02T09:38:06.556-07:00I love reading that story you have to tell. Keep t...I love reading that story you have to tell. Keep the stories coming!SeaDnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-2310768851911420592011-06-02T09:20:36.259-07:002011-06-02T09:20:36.259-07:00K-
You also have some crazy stories from your days...K-<br />You also have some crazy stories from your days before Ish..should I call them Polk St. Fair type days? I've been reading your blog a long time ;) Are you willing to share those yet?<br /><br />KirinAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-85032908345224989332011-06-02T09:15:47.840-07:002011-06-02T09:15:47.840-07:00Kristy, you write with such honesty and humor, I t...Kristy, you write with such honesty and humor, I think mixing the current in with the memoir would be great. But maybe save some of it for the book...bethanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08163733354894909762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-79740071774961338562011-06-02T07:46:25.472-07:002011-06-02T07:46:25.472-07:00i was fed 2% cow's milk from a bottle when i w...i was fed 2% cow's milk from a bottle when i was wee. and (i think) i turned out all right. healthy for the most part, smart, and the tragically limp hair can be chalked up to genetics alone.<br /><br />i think many women are misunderstanding the "importance" of breastfeeding. i'm back in school to get my RN and in one of my classes a woman asked if it was still possible to bond with your child if you fed from a bottle. even though we had just gone over how the bonding comes from eye contact and mimicking facial expressions, etc. and these are the people going into health care!<br /><br />so, if you do get any of those angry response i'd chalk them up to not really seeing the big picture for all the little details.jo sparklehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11452704914625729404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-89683304334215703422011-06-02T07:04:36.299-07:002011-06-02T07:04:36.299-07:00Good for you! F*@# anyone who tries to tell you h...Good for you! F*@# anyone who tries to tell you how to live your life, as a mom or otherwise. One thing the Internet has taught me is that some people do not have enough to do.Leighnoreply@blogger.com