tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post2491562805921612523..comments2024-03-28T09:41:36.745-07:00Comments on She Just Walks Around With It: Before I Tell You Way Too Much About My Labor, Let Me Piss Off All The Natural Labor Advocates!kristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00879301751663532121noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-78984518128612232282009-08-06T06:01:01.188-07:002009-08-06T06:01:01.188-07:00i love this.
a lot.i love this.<br />a lot.gabbyfekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04709468526128347736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-82454241032964316202009-08-01T17:38:17.876-07:002009-08-01T17:38:17.876-07:00Great. Thanks a lot. I didn't need to want ano...Great. Thanks a lot. I didn't need to want another baby, but after these photos the baby wants are kicking in. What a super cutie!!!! I love the "let's get this over with" expression on her face in the second photo.<br />BTW- instincts are the best- glad to know you are following yours. I always have the most trouble when I listen to other people and not myself.Lomagirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09273397354830985024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-54043839845703248392009-07-31T15:35:09.529-07:002009-07-31T15:35:09.529-07:00Eve is SOOOO beautiful -- I'm so thrilled for ...Eve is SOOOO beautiful -- I'm so thrilled for you and Ish, and glad you're enjoying her so much. You know, I had a delightfully easy baby too, and he remained that way until about 3 or 4 years old. I just went with it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09874186529099858245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-68976606364160443442009-07-30T08:34:33.848-07:002009-07-30T08:34:33.848-07:00You are wonderful. So very smart, where the heck ...You are wonderful. So very smart, where the heck were ya during my pregnancy? I could have used a dose of that stuff.<br />You amaze me. Thanks for writing.Rebeccanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-42798767797600942572009-07-29T18:19:01.190-07:002009-07-29T18:19:01.190-07:00And I can't believe I'm writing this SECON...And I can't believe I'm writing this SECOND, but that is the most perfect, glorious baby that ever was.Swistlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13126937282657655091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-49397105528749668482009-07-29T18:15:02.800-07:002009-07-29T18:15:02.800-07:00I don't envy the people who think if they writ...I don't envy the people who think if they write it down, that's how it will go, because it seems like those are the people who have GIANT EMOTIONAL CRISES when it doesn't. I remember my birth plan (which my OB made me write) was basically, "Um, why are you making me pretend this can be planned?" That has left me with very happy memories of my long labor and subsequent c-section. Mmmmmm, happiness.Swistlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13126937282657655091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-13651970158970545342009-07-29T15:08:17.503-07:002009-07-29T15:08:17.503-07:00kristy,
congratulations on your beautiful baby!
i...kristy,<br />congratulations on your beautiful baby!<br /><br />i am really happy for you and ish, and maybe especially for eve, because she could not have been luckier in the parents she got. (ok, i don't know ish, but you've vouched for him pretty well!)<br /><br />though i know nothing of babies or pregnancy, what you wrote here made complete sense to me. once you truly grasp the randomness of the bad things that happen, you also end up grasping the randomness of the good things that happen... and that makes your appreciation of them and gratitude for them indescribably deep and real.<br /><br />it is wonderful that this awareness of the Random didn't result in massive anxiety during your pregnancy, but calm instead. that was a little gift you gave yourself (and, in my opinion, a serious achievement, even if you didn't do it on purpose!). <br /><br />congrats on all of it. i'm grateful, too, that you ended up with a healthy baby. that is how it should be, and isn't it wonderful when what <i>should be</i> actually <i>is</i>? so thanks for sharing it so we all get to celebrate that! <br /><br />xo<br />sweetoneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-60545758706615175502009-07-28T16:17:35.888-07:002009-07-28T16:17:35.888-07:00Maybe the lesson here is that it's time to not...Maybe the lesson here is that it's time to not look the gift horse in the mouth and just "accept"? Maybe it was easy, and she is easy, because it's time for you to experience easy? You've had so much that has been hard. At some point, the universe owes you some easy.<br /><br />:)Serrephimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01860746853228891590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-66801427484789703542009-07-28T13:03:50.797-07:002009-07-28T13:03:50.797-07:00Thank you!
Thank you for your honesty and your sin...Thank you!<br />Thank you for your honesty and your sincerity. Thank you for just being you.<br /><br />I love your blog. I love your outlook and your humor and your "there. yes. I just said that" attitude!<br /><br />And I love that you have such an adorable baby girl to hold and to treasure!Bridget McCarthyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15989230513113751517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-16075123805317023872009-07-28T12:24:49.044-07:002009-07-28T12:24:49.044-07:00Yeah, I was a birthplan writer, but like the previ...Yeah, I was a birthplan writer, but like the previous poster, it was more for ME than for the medical staff. In fact, it never came out of my bag at the hospital. Granted, I had my husband and a doula (and a nurse who was more than willing to leave us alone because a young woman down the hall had NO ONE with her). <br />My second baby was a c-section baby. Not because I planned it. Not because anyone did anything wrong - in fact, we tried a LOT of things to get him to turn from breech, and he DID... until he then turned transverse during labor. So, c-section, and good thing, because the cord was also wrapped, AND he was 10lb 2oz. Someone still had the nerve to try to commiserate with me that I hadn't had the baby "naturally." I told her that at the TOP of my birth plan was this statement: "If the baby doesn't come out of my forehead, it's a good birth." I still believe that.Maryhttp://www.bothhandsandaflashlight.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-80320659389927996162009-07-28T11:30:58.066-07:002009-07-28T11:30:58.066-07:00Your baby is beautiful. Congratulations, and I am ...Your baby is beautiful. Congratulations, and I am so glad she's healthy, and you're happy, and everything is well.<br /><br />In some ways, I've taken a similar perspective on this baby-having business as you have. After divorcing my first husband, then losing two of my best friends to ugly deaths, I don't believe anyone controls anything. I've taken commonsense precautions, but I've eaten Brie, had an occasional glass of wine, and haven't thought twice about it.<br /><br />But I am, in fact, working on my birth plan right now. I understand your perspective on it, and it used to be mine, until I started to do it. What I've come to think is that the birth plan is a process, not a result. It's allowing me to think through different possibilities and contigencies. I don't think that if I write it down, that's how it will go. But I do think I want to have spent some time thinking over possibilities, so that I can talk to my doctors about what might happen before things do. I know several people who have had C-sections who "planned" natural births, and they have no doubt that the decision was the right one. I also know some people who had C-sections who felt pressured into the decision, who still wonder about how medically necessary the surgery was, and so on. I know people who have had good natural births with lots of preparation - and I know people who planned to have an epidural, but were too late when they got to the hospital and had to have a natural birth, without any instruction in how to make the pain as bearable as possible. I am trying to use the birth plan as an opportunity to think through the possibilities, do some reading, try to get my head around the options, then talk to my doctors about how things might go, including if things go badly. Part of that's the researcher in me; preparing for something by reading journal articles is my way of putting things in context (and the good thing about going to a source like NEJM is that academics don't tend to put things in melodramatic terms - they like % increases in risk, not blanket Do and Don't statements). I guess I also don't have an enormous amount of faith in most doctors - I tend to want to feel somewhat armed for dealing with the medical system.<br /><br />Anyway, I just wanted to speak out for the birth-plan writers. It's like making plans for a vacation - some people hate the thought of doing it, because they will be unhappy if they don't follow the plan. Me, I plan every day, and then don't follow the plan much, and never care. But the plan-making process always helps me understand things better, even if I only understand my own preconceived expectations.Pyewackethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13374398638186744765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-85016553140265260012009-07-28T09:33:17.564-07:002009-07-28T09:33:17.564-07:00I think you have a great head on your shoulders. ...I think you have a great head on your shoulders. Good for you to ditch all the screaming horror blogs that scare the crap out of you. I was 17 when I had my first and believe it or not it was all good. My grandmother nearly had a fainting fit when she came over in the afternoon and I hadn't bathed my daughter yet. My thinking was that she wouldn't go belly up if her bath was a little late...she hated it anyway. We didn't have those cool little blow up tub things that fit in the big tub.<br /><br />I had three children by my 20th birthday. They are in their 40s now and seem to be healthy and sane and wise. Some are wealthier than others, but heck one wanted to work in criminal justice for the state. She does good work. The all are very good people and somehow we weathered the locking themselves in the bathroom and I didn't have a key, horses and broken arms, and bull riding and getting thrown off. Somehow we all survived and thrived.Amber Starhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04084517063365211835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-43994663338260371082009-07-28T07:31:49.024-07:002009-07-28T07:31:49.024-07:00Hold on to that "let it go" perspective....Hold on to that "let it go" perspective. Kids beat the need to control stuff out of you with a quickness. <br /><br />I used to joke (but secretly mean it) that I would consider myself a success as a mother, if only I could get my youngest to two with no major medical care. <br /><br />Two weeks before his second birthday he had to get stitches (who knew library story time could be so treacherous?). A week after that, he broke his arm. <br /><br />For the record, I still consider myself a good mother. My pediatrician? She does as well. CPS is reserving judgement.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-21045583547323356302009-07-28T07:06:54.142-07:002009-07-28T07:06:54.142-07:00Thanks for posting this! I can't imagine a mo...Thanks for posting this! I can't imagine a more personal issue than childbirth, and every person has to make their own decisions. You have more personal insight- (years of therapy) than most. Thanks for sharing! Can't wait for the next one. Kisses to you cutie!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-51972382028127974342009-07-28T06:59:29.429-07:002009-07-28T06:59:29.429-07:00Eve is so beautiful!
When I had our daughter, alm...Eve is so beautiful!<br /><br />When I had our daughter, almost "gulp" 29 years ago there was no internet to research with, only the library and Dr Spock so I had to do it mostly by myself and I was only 19 years old. I did try to ignore the strange advice like I had to get rid of my cats because they 'suck the breath from babies!" Yipes! And I did have a drink while pregnant and she was fine and grew up into a great person so I did something right.<br /><br />You'll do what feels best for you and it will be what's best for her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-6931059813217724562009-07-28T06:05:34.075-07:002009-07-28T06:05:34.075-07:00Love, love, LOVE this perspective. And congratula...Love, love, LOVE this perspective. And congratulations, times a million :)elisehttp://elise.blogs.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-87110802822524467842009-07-28T04:48:31.132-07:002009-07-28T04:48:31.132-07:00Same pregnancy/birth view point here, too. Precise...Same pregnancy/birth view point here, too. Precisely. And everything was fine, and my daughter is beautiful and healthy and perfect and I am so, so lucky. <br /><br />A quick note on the "easy" baby: You don't yet know what you have there, yet, and things will likely get harder, but IT WILL STILL BE OKAY. AWESOME, EVEN. Even the easiest of babies get hard very soon (the first month-plus, for me, was like a honeymoon DREAM, and then I got my real baby, who was not the easy baby I told everyone I had). I say this not to scare you, but so that you do not panic when it DOES happen. Because then, before you even have time to get used to how hard it is/seems, things will get easy again, and pretty much stay that way, with the exception of universal-type issues (teething, etc.) Seriously. I had a colicky, refluxy, screamy baby (these things did not appear until WEEK FOUR OR FIVE) and now, things are wondrous. And even when they're not, she's SO full of personality that it's easy. (She's almost five months now. Heaven.)<br /><br />But even babies who don't do that tend to get harder. So don't panic. Just enjoy it all, and know that the hard will pass. It will take you by surprise and send you into a brief panic, but it WILL pass.jonnikerhttp://jonniker.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-54383749454326710582009-07-28T04:30:36.643-07:002009-07-28T04:30:36.643-07:00Congrats, Kristy & Ish!
Next to your "Wo...Congrats, Kristy & Ish!<br /><br />Next to your "Women Are Crazy" I, II, & III...<br /><br />This was your best post. Ever.<br /><br />Thank you. I absolutely needed that today.<br /><br />Congrats, again.<br /><br />Toma<br />(formerly of Monterey, now of Miami)TanteTomahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14940613645702301992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-92016496104733641912009-07-28T00:17:06.708-07:002009-07-28T00:17:06.708-07:00What a beautiful little girl!What a beautiful little girl!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-32527458756769979062009-07-27T21:47:37.421-07:002009-07-27T21:47:37.421-07:00So, this is a bit belated, but congratulations! A...So, this is a bit belated, but congratulations! And wow, she's so beautiful!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14194395106674091417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-81728159996784147602009-07-27T20:51:50.531-07:002009-07-27T20:51:50.531-07:00You are beautiful... Eve is beautiful. You make it...You are beautiful... Eve is beautiful. You make it a happy day when you share. Thank you.delightednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-19664244732533512692009-07-27T19:07:42.367-07:002009-07-27T19:07:42.367-07:00Eve is so pretty--I think she looks a lot like you...Eve is so pretty--I think she looks a lot like you!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17337911403762864436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-17655976368012918832009-07-27T17:15:40.968-07:002009-07-27T17:15:40.968-07:00There she is! Such a perfect little doll...There she is! Such a perfect little doll...Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10484230168313197196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-68179711611259353792009-07-27T17:11:33.016-07:002009-07-27T17:11:33.016-07:00Thank you for saying that.Thank you for saying that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-34314806355673022242009-07-27T16:21:12.629-07:002009-07-27T16:21:12.629-07:00She is so so beautifulShe is so so beautifulSarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04240956769826578754noreply@blogger.com