tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post115629138299266211..comments2024-03-18T15:02:15.282-07:00Comments on She Just Walks Around With It: There Are Two Sides To Every Storykristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00879301751663532121noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1157748140476566732006-09-08T13:42:00.000-07:002006-09-08T13:42:00.000-07:00Healy, I just saw your comment here. I want to sa...Healy, I just saw your comment here. I want to say to you that I'm sorry for all the loss you have endured. I hope it is a very long time before you have to encounter it again. I hope love seeps into all the spaces of hurt.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1157409371106689362006-09-04T15:36:00.000-07:002006-09-04T15:36:00.000-07:00Yeah, my boyfriend's mother stopped speaking ot us...Yeah, my boyfriend's mother stopped speaking ot us when we decided to live together. He's 32. Niiiiiice.<BR/><BR/>Nevermind the fact that she has an illegitimate child out of wedlock, WE'RE clearly living in sin.JessiferSeabshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02011040052433366321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1157339017984246002006-09-03T20:03:00.000-07:002006-09-03T20:03:00.000-07:00MAY I HAVE SOME SYMPATHY PLEASE????!!!Sorry, this ...MAY I HAVE SOME SYMPATHY PLEASE????!!!<BR/>Sorry, this is Kristy's sister...<BR/>I am so very, very sad, and since I know how wonderfully you (IIF's) have helped Kristy, I am begging for a little of your love!<BR/>You know the story...how we, like several of you, have had to first-hand witness the f-ing course of cancer take over TOO many of our loved ones. Yesterday we had to put our loveable, beloved dog down due to spinal cancer and I am so damned depressed! My mom, my aunt, my grandfather, my father, my DOG??!! Will it ever stop? Please!!<BR/>Off the subject, but thanks to everyone for helping my sister (and myself in conjuction) get through very trying times. Human nature is such a beautiful, loving thing, isn't it?<BR/>Love and best wishes to all!<BR/>P.S.- yes, Vodka has written a half of this comment!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1157145238562733222006-09-01T14:13:00.000-07:002006-09-01T14:13:00.000-07:00OM - LOLOLOL. that actually made me laugh aloud.a...OM - LOLOLOL. that actually made me laugh aloud.<BR/><BR/>anon - you inspired me to actually make the t-shirt. :)<BR/><BR/>b'licious - he was what? 24 then? still, we all should've known better. this time around at least i have 'experience' on my side...<BR/><BR/>brit - you simply have smart things to say. (that makes bossy okay.) :) and you are right, i do know this already, and have been very impressed with his ability to manage all aspects of this sticky situation well. *especially* given his history (like with the ESPN story...). hi! btw.kristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00879301751663532121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1157144697406106152006-09-01T14:04:00.000-07:002006-09-01T14:04:00.000-07:00I think you are smart (and sassy) enought to reali...I think you are smart (and sassy) enought to realize that if your partner doesn't stand up to his parents about your place in his life now, he never will. That is possibly THE only thing I learned from my parents relationship. <BR/><BR/>It doesn't get better if a partner is not willing to say to their parents. "Parents. chill. this is the person I'm dating, and you will play nice. Or you don't get to play" then they don't respect you and/or are afraid of their parents. And you can't truly have a relationship if the parents are alwasy interfering.<BR/><BR/>That comment of course carries the bitterness of a child watching their parents battle and then years later when my father remarried watching him make the same mistake. Instead of saying to his new wife "these are my children, and you will play nice" he turned tail and ran.<BR/><BR/>Spineless. And yeah I'm a little bitter, (duh) but I also see it as a huge warning sign. Very large. Red. sign. with flashing lights.<BR/><BR/>And I think, you know this already.<BR/><BR/>And also, my husband is constantly bringing up that story about brushing your teeth while watching ESPN...because he is fascinated by it.<BR/><BR/>Man...am I bossy. SorryBrithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04590749990040338572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1157129154517715342006-09-01T09:45:00.000-07:002006-09-01T09:45:00.000-07:00Aarwenn - I can so relate. My ex told my offhand,...Aarwenn - I can so relate. My ex told my offhand, once, that his mother basically said I was a prostitute. She often made remarks about me sleeping with him for the money he was going to get in a couple of years. Ouch. And really, that's insulting not just to me, but to him! What's worse: that she said it, or that he thought it wasn't a big deal? His last words to me were, "My parents liked you!" and I stammered, "That's just--you're lying! There's no point in talking to you!" and I slammed down the phone.<BR/>K - I don't know what to tell you. I don't know about the current situation enough to advise, but with the David story, it sounds like they were annoyed with him and projecting their anger onto you. Really, it's not your fault at all that he broke up with his girlfriend and didn't tell them about that, or about you. Depending on how old he was, I also think it's potentially creepy that his mother would clean his room especially with the intent of snooping.<BR/>Whatever is happening--good luck!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14194395106674091417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1157075420332617412006-08-31T18:50:00.000-07:002006-08-31T18:50:00.000-07:00Here we are with that double standard. Men are st...Here we are with that double standard. Men are studs and congratulated if they have sex no matter with whom, how often or where. If a woman enjoys herself before "holy matrimony" she is a whore, slut, easy, floozy, loose, whatever. <BR/><BR/>~T- brazen slut and loving every second of it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1157065649607569512006-08-31T16:07:00.000-07:002006-08-31T16:07:00.000-07:00el_g - no, not really. but i like to pretend ther...el_g - no, not really. but i like to pretend there is.<BR/><BR/>3c - yeah, um, why would he do that? guilt? sigh.<BR/><BR/>caroline - i agree. and even though Dave and i were much younger then, it still wasn't a good sign that he couldn't see the need to say such a thing.<BR/><BR/>jenny - um, i'm not sure. i don't think so...but again, the circumstances have not cast me in a very good light. (thanks, tho!)<BR/><BR/>aarwen - and this is why we do not date younger men anymore. (and it's okay, i *am* old. but i got carded last night, so it's okay.)<BR/><BR/>OM - poetry is always acceptable.<BR/><BR/>jester - thank you. and exactly.<BR/><BR/>carolyn - rebounds, unite! i know quite a few long-term relationships that *should* have been rebounds. so go on wichyo bad self!<BR/><BR/>dena - no; i know that they were (are?) unhappy with the situation in general, for reasons that are completely...well...reasonable. and it would be very easy for them to see me as "the other woman," which i'm really not. but you know. hussy.<BR/><BR/>i should make a t-shirt.kristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00879301751663532121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1157062806886805032006-08-31T15:20:00.000-07:002006-08-31T15:20:00.000-07:00Hmmm...not quite as bad, but when my beloved husba...Hmmm...not quite as bad, but when my beloved husband and I had first started dating and he informed his parents about me, his mother responded with something to the effect of "I hope she realizes she's just your rebound girlfriend."<BR/><BR/>Ouch. Happily, they turned out to be wrong.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1157059627451762522006-08-31T14:27:00.000-07:002006-08-31T14:27:00.000-07:00This is a perfect example to remember in later sit...This is a perfect example to remember in later situations when you/I/we think something negative about someone. How does it look from their perspective? <BR/><BR/>You're beautiful, smart, funny and dammit people like you. <BR/><BR/>Now the guy that my ex cheated on me with? Well... sometimes a slut is just a a slut.Jesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10824364102356014103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1157051771463201422006-08-31T12:16:00.000-07:002006-08-31T12:16:00.000-07:00I whole-heartedly agree with caroline. Although at...I whole-heartedly agree with caroline. Although at the time, you and David were both very young, but this is not the case anymore--OMG I just said you were old. Let me rephrase. Oh, hell. You know what I'm saying.<BR/><BR/>Once upon a time, my high school boyfriend told me that his mother thought I was a hussy.<BR/><BR/>I couldn't decide, later, if it was worse that his mother thought I was, or worse that he just allowed the comment to pass by and then repeated it to me later!Aarwennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04803036088464900924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1157050331615636872006-08-31T11:52:00.000-07:002006-08-31T11:52:00.000-07:00Good point, Caroline.Do Ish's parents have the wro...Good point, Caroline.<BR/><BR/>Do Ish's parents have the wrong idea about you too? That would be a shame because you are marvelous.ZestyJennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03414060326696170724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1157050135109839492006-08-31T11:48:00.000-07:002006-08-31T11:48:00.000-07:00I've always been of the opinion that in situations...I've always been of the opinion that in situations like this, it is up to the son to man up and pave the way to a workable relationship with the parents. It is up to him to say "Look, this woman is beautiful and intelligent and most importantly, she makes me happy. And that needs to be the most important thing to you, too."<BR/><BR/>But that is just my opinion. You brazen hussy. ; )Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08457487239082794082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1157049546874662082006-08-31T11:39:00.000-07:002006-08-31T11:39:00.000-07:00Sometimes I think it's a thing about boys (men) an...Sometimes I think it's a thing about boys (men) and their parents. My first meeting with my ex's parents was...a disaster. We were spending the weekend with them and walked out halfway through. They were extremely religious. I, at that time, had no religion at all. They believed in no physical relationship before marriage. My ex and I had already broken that rule. Unbeknownst to me, ex had TOLD his parents about this. Imagine my surprise when I am alone in a room with his mother and CONFRONTED with this fact. Ouch. The situation with the parents improved years later. But the relationship with the ex disintegrated.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1157047736262761832006-08-31T11:08:00.000-07:002006-08-31T11:08:00.000-07:00You know, the side where I'm sluttish and brazen a...<I> You know, the side where I'm sluttish and brazen and morally questionable...</I><BR/><BR/>Wait, there's <B>another</B> side? I, for one, am sorely disappointed.El Gallohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13828572152878860082noreply@blogger.com