tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post112069356034140538..comments2024-03-28T22:33:33.687-07:00Comments on She Just Walks Around With It: Sometimes I Am Totally Organizedkristyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00879301751663532121noreply@blogger.comBlogger58125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1121323856130663902005-07-13T23:50:00.000-07:002005-07-13T23:50:00.000-07:00uh...the1thingfish, I think everyone did get over ...uh...the1thingfish, I think everyone did get over it and moved on. your post is 4 days after we all did move on. you need to get over it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1121277773054666032005-07-13T11:02:00.000-07:002005-07-13T11:02:00.000-07:00Folks the bottom line is get over it! Stop wearing...Folks the bottom line is get over it! Stop wearing your bleeding hearts on your sleeves.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120937776274499062005-07-09T12:36:00.000-07:002005-07-09T12:36:00.000-07:00dan, you keep saying you are going to move on but ...dan, you keep saying you are going to move on but you keep coming back. dude, you're starting to sound obsessive. every other post is from you, even when other posters are talking to each other or just to everyone in general! that's what YOUR blog is for. we know where to find you if we want.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120933561002954112005-07-09T11:26:00.000-07:002005-07-09T11:26:00.000-07:00I have deleted the initial offending post on my bl...I have deleted the initial offending post on my blog. I would like to personally apologize to K for having inadvertantly started this long list of comments in her blog when it clearly has nothing to do with anything she has said. I found her one response to me in this thread very funny and appreciated her wit. <BR/><BR/>Please comment on my blog if you wish to continue this topic however I will no longer respond. I'm moving on to much lighter subjects and will certainly be more aware in the future.Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10480406727564538488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120931406589279442005-07-09T10:50:00.000-07:002005-07-09T10:50:00.000-07:00I've tried apologizing, I've tried explaining, the...I've tried apologizing, I've tried explaining, there's just no way to make everyone happy so yes, I've moved on. Comments on my blog have been hurtful and degrading, proving my point.Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10480406727564538488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120926977965696832005-07-09T09:36:00.000-07:002005-07-09T09:36:00.000-07:00Dan, move on. Like the other Dan said. Thou doest ...Dan, move on. Like the other Dan said. Thou doest protest too much. You mentioned that the only two posts you got questioned your age and ability as a father. The posts were in response to your insulting use of terms that you are now trying to sugar coat. Nicole spelled it out for you perfectly. YOU invited people to your personal blog and to comment on it. In all your defensiveness, you're so busy trying to dig your way out, you're not getting it. No one called you homophobic, you may or may not be, that's not the issue. They commented on the homophobic comments you made...INTENTIONALLY.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120925490391089322005-07-09T09:11:00.000-07:002005-07-09T09:11:00.000-07:00P.S. I hope K's blog is kept public because I too ...P.S. I hope K's blog is kept public because I too enjoy reading it. Her humor makes me laugh. The only reason this conversation is being held here is because the non-blogging nay-sayers couldn't comment on my blog.<BR/><BR/>Peace.Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10480406727564538488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120925334109427182005-07-09T09:08:00.000-07:002005-07-09T09:08:00.000-07:00Ok. Fine. I get the point. Yes, when terms like th...Ok. Fine. I get the point. Yes, when terms like that are used towards heterosexual men it's an insult. And of course that was the point. It was in no way, shape or form supposed to be an insult towards gay men, which is why I apologized. I'm not homophobic, I'm not against that lifestyle choice. Heck, I'm from 'RedNeck' Alberta and I'm 'pro' same-sex marriage. Judge my words if you like, but don't judge me. <BR/><BR/>This whole thing started because I lamely suggested someone should comment on my blog. The only two comments I got actually questioned my age (meaning maturity) and my ability as a father. THAT was way too personal. And now we're on this big debate. <BR/><BR/>I will post a new entry on my blog this morning that will hopefully express many things regarding this topic. Yes, non-bloggers can comment now too so those of you who wish to attack, reprimand and condemn people who choose to expose themselves to the public without actually having the fortitude to do it themselves are welcome to bash away at me. I can take it.Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10480406727564538488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120920340931906852005-07-09T07:45:00.000-07:002005-07-09T07:45:00.000-07:00Maybe this blog should become a friends only blog....Maybe this blog should become a friends only blog. Lots of personal information shared and it's special stuff. Some could argue it's so special it shouldn't be open to public comment, public period. Nicole, good to be reminded the words we use, choose do matter, and help define who we are. Maybe some of the stuff we share with friends we wouldn't share with the world. But everyone has to weigh that for themselves. Tolerance and patience... kindness.... Kristy has a really fun and funny style of writing... reading her helps deviate from stress of day some times... so in that sense, hope she keeps her blog public. Otherwise will wait to buy her books when she's published.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120919717357394672005-07-09T07:35:00.000-07:002005-07-09T07:35:00.000-07:00P.S. Dan,If you want everyone to comment in your o...P.S. Dan,<BR/><BR/>If you want everyone to comment in your own blog, you need to allow non-blogger users to post comments!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120919314723594772005-07-09T07:28:00.000-07:002005-07-09T07:28:00.000-07:00"when did gay become a negative thing to say about..."when did gay become a negative thing to say about someone"<BR/><BR/>are you kidding me? you've never heard homophobic men use being gay as a complete insult to another man. Where have you been? Yes, i'd like to think the world is getting more educated and tolerant, but the negativity will continue to be passed on if people don't learn to realize the impact of such "[not-so]friendly obnoxious boy stuff ."<BR/><BR/>Dan, yes, those words refer to actions that anyone could perform, but you definitely used them in a man-on-man context when talking about your neighbors. And I know you are now more than aware of this due to the lengthy thread, but I don't see how you can still deny that your comments were meant to be insults!! You were pissed at your neighbors (and rightfully so) and you meant to be derogatory to them, I am pretty sure that was the overall mood of your post. It's OK to be pissed off. And maybe it's OK to joke with your gay buddies with terms like that, but when you are in a negative mood and use terms like that, I think it loses the jovial tone and becomes malignant. And THAT is the part you should be aware of, in my opinion. <BR/><BR/>Another note on being PC... I linked to my live journal here once, and I happened to have a post that mentioned the totally un-PC term "tards" (for mentally disabled/handicapped). I used it when directing my post to a friend of mine who is a sped teacher of that population. We use that term in a joking way all the time. Someone who reads She Walks decided to comment and tell me how intolerant I sounded. That was annoying since I don't normally have random people read my LJ. Anyway, it just taught me a lesson about what to put on the internet and when to keep things "friends only."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120906650547878382005-07-09T03:57:00.000-07:002005-07-09T03:57:00.000-07:00wolf in sheeps clothing, thou doest protest too mu...wolf in sheeps clothing, thou doest protest too much, danAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120889987371224352005-07-08T23:19:00.000-07:002005-07-08T23:19:00.000-07:00kristy is asleep now; reading all these OT posts m...kristy is asleep now; reading all these OT posts must have tuckered her out!!riseyphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16811155635130239239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120880751357352502005-07-08T20:45:00.000-07:002005-07-08T20:45:00.000-07:00shull o'fit...my initial intent when making those ...shull o'fit...my initial intent when making those comments was not to degrade anyone or any particular lifestyle. I see your point of how it all fits together (I only mentioned ABBA because it's a group I associate with both 70's and 90's) and may come across as some kind of bashing thing or something. Entirely not my intent and although I don't feel the need to do so, I will apologize one last time to those who may be reading this for the first time.<BR/><BR/>I will post on my blog tomorrow and it will hopefully clear many things up. You are all welcome to comment on my blog, instead of clogging up K's. Unless she's enjoying reading this ;-}Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10480406727564538488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120868159050896722005-07-08T17:15:00.000-07:002005-07-08T17:15:00.000-07:00hi everyone... i didn't pick up on the gay part......hi everyone... i didn't pick up on the gay part... i thought it was a very (straight) guy thing to say about just being horny... sounds like something a husband might say when his wife wishes he wouldn't... friendly obnoxious boy stuff that makes wives like me wonder why he couldn't just be a little more sophisticated just once. hahaha. have a good weekend K et al.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120863203548064852005-07-08T15:53:00.000-07:002005-07-08T15:53:00.000-07:00Theoretically an assjockey could be a man on a wom...Theoretically an assjockey could be a man on a woman, or vice-versa with the right strap-on. Theoretically.<BR/><BR/>Ahh..crap. I said I wouldn't comment on this again. Hopefully we all learned something from this, I know I did and I'm a better person for it.<BR/><BR/>Peace.Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10480406727564538488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120862097527335882005-07-08T15:34:00.000-07:002005-07-08T15:34:00.000-07:00Shull o'fit:No heat, not from me ;)Anyway, I hear ...Shull o'fit:<BR/><BR/>No heat, not from me ;)<BR/><BR/>Anyway, I hear what you're saying. Depending on my mood, sometimes I'll snap at people for being completely insensitive. But see how graciously Dan took the anon's comments?<BR/><BR/>It's just sort of the way things go, that all language is going to be offensive to someone. So should we just not communicate? Dan has pointed out that he uses that language with his gay friends. If those are the only gay people he'd ever been exposed to, how would he be expected to know that calling a straight neighbor an assmunch or assjockey would be offensive, until someone points it out? When pointing something like that out to someone who really just didn't know any better, you should instruct, not insult. They're not going to hear your message if they think it's an attack. Like with kids: Do you scream at them and call them an idiot because they've made what you view as a mistake? <BR/><BR/>And, personally, I don't think "assmunch" = gay. Assjockey has that connotation, yes, but to me, an assmuncher could just as easily be a straight woman munching her husband's ass as it could be about two gay men.<BR/><BR/>I've thought this for a while, but at some point, we have to take responsbility for why we are offended, just as much as the person who offended us has to own their part in it.Serrephimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01860746853228891590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120862005079687612005-07-08T15:33:00.000-07:002005-07-08T15:33:00.000-07:00This is my last comment on this topic in this thre...This is my last comment on this topic in this thread as it is not fair to K to use this as a political forum.<BR/><BR/>As I replied to a comment on my own blog:<BR/><BR/>'See...I thought the terms I used referred to actions, not groups, which is why I was shocked at the response from those two people. <BR/><BR/>No big deal though...I'm moving on.'<BR/><BR/>Heterosexual men (and women for that matter) can be a$$munchers and a$$jockeys too. Simply because it was three men talking everyone a$$umed I was putting down gay men. No one asked if that was the intent.Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10480406727564538488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120860143309950462005-07-08T15:02:00.000-07:002005-07-08T15:02:00.000-07:00(ps. serrephim, I know you weren't calling me igno...(ps. serrephim, I know you weren't calling me ignorant but I'm man enough to admit that I don't know everything. Nor do I pretend to. Your comments are appreciated.)Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10480406727564538488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120859963260194182005-07-08T14:59:00.001-07:002005-07-08T14:59:00.001-07:00hmmm...spoke to soon about some....Alice, since I ...hmmm...spoke to soon about some....<BR/><BR/>Alice, since I know nothing about you I can only hope you do not have children, for I would hate to know how you are raising them. But then again, I don't judge others based on a <I>personal</I> blog.Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10480406727564538488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120859950287670772005-07-08T14:59:00.000-07:002005-07-08T14:59:00.000-07:00(ps: Dan, I wasn't calling you ignorant)(ps: Dan, I wasn't calling you ignorant)Serrephimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01860746853228891590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120859899329688092005-07-08T14:58:00.000-07:002005-07-08T14:58:00.000-07:00Alice:I just think sometimes it's better to use th...Alice:<BR/><BR/>I just think sometimes it's better to use those opportunities to instruct, rather than insult, you know? Some people really don't understand that certain words are red flags to certain groups. That may make them ignorant to some degree, but doesn't necessarily make them a bad person. They just need someone to admonish them in a way that isn't threatening ;)Serrephimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01860746853228891590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120859833689632012005-07-08T14:57:00.000-07:002005-07-08T14:57:00.000-07:00That's more like it!Anonymous: Thank you for the h...That's more like it!<BR/><BR/>Anonymous: Thank you for the honest explanation. I do have gay male friends (well only two that I know of) and they find the term(s) funny but I realize that not every gay person would. I appreciate you pointing that out in the manner you did and I apologize if my humor rubbed you the wrong way. (okay, that was a bad pun but I couldn't resist).<BR/><BR/>As for the other comments defending me, thank you as well. The history of my short blog will show that I am not intending to be cruel. <BR/><BR/>Constructive criticism is appreciated and I ALWAYS apologize when I make a mistake. <BR/><BR/>By gones...Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10480406727564538488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120859624772295862005-07-08T14:53:00.000-07:002005-07-08T14:53:00.000-07:00I understand what you're saying Serephim, but when...I understand what you're saying Serephim, but when I observe a grown adult using derogatory terms that can hurt someone else's feeling, I don't really care if I'm tactful or not because they weren't only tactless, they were hurtful, rude and insulting. As for the kids, I'm assuming the same values are passed on to them whether intentionally or not. Have a good weekend everyone. Kristy, will you be entertaining us with some writing this weekend?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10136851.post-1120859123800044712005-07-08T14:45:00.001-07:002005-07-08T14:45:00.001-07:00oops, when i wrote "you" i meant Dan...not you, kr...oops, when i wrote "you" i meant Dan...not you, kristy! hi!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com